When it comes to game, there’s two kinds. Inner and outer game.
Most guys focus on outer game, but in reality, if you’ve got strong enough inner game, outer game will take care of itself.
I’m sure you know this on some level.
Just imagine if you were supremely confident, never got nervous, and eagerly and happily walked up any girl you liked, and said whatever you felt like saying without worrying how she’d responded.
You’d be trying all kinds of different things, and your own experience would be the best teacher.
You wouldn’t need to read books or forums or memorize silly patterns.
The truth is that if you’re confident enough, you could talk about anything and she’ll be naturally drawn to you like a moth to a flame.
After all, the surface structure of language is just that. Surface structure. It’s what’s underneath, the self confidence, the self esteem, the utter lack of neediness, that makes her dripping wet.
I’m sure you’ve read about using affirmations to help your game, right?
And you’ve probably practiced them a bit, right?
Well, here’s another one to try.
It’s based on a couple of common fears that create what is collectively known as “approach anxiety.’
One is that we’ll get rejected.
Two is that we’re doing something “wrong,” or that we “shouldn’t” be doing.
Three is that everybody is watching us and is going to laugh when we go down in flames.
Now, we could go into great detail and talk about how these are common fears generated by our common childhood experience, but we’ll skip that today.
Instead, try this affirmation and see how it feels. Just imagine if you absolutely and completely believed it:
“I accept, appreciate and express my sexual desire and attraction as normal, expected, and desired by others.”
What would you be able to do if this were true?
Try it out, and see.
Till next time,