There’s a powerful technique from covert hypnosis that can help you get much better results when out in the field.
The way it normally works is like this. You see a cute girl, and she sees you. You exchange some eye contact, and you both know you’re kind of interested in each other.
Then you make the approach, and everything works out great, and everybody lives happily ever after, right?
What usually happens is the guy walks over, and the closer he gets, the more nervous he gets. Which makes her more nervous. And while they’re talking, he’s thinking, “when should I ask for her number?”
While she’s thinking, “what should I say when he asks for my number?”
Meaning that on top of being nervous, both people are thinking about things other than the conversation at hand.
Meaning that both parties are likely missing out on a HUGE amount of non verbal communication and cues.
And if you know anything about communication, you know that MOST of it is non-verbal.
Which, of course, means that if you aren’t paying attention to the non verbal stuff, you’re missing out on what’s being communicated. Regardless of the words being spoken.
But here’s a way around that.
First, you’ll need to think of something to start the conversation with, that will likely lead to a normal conversation.
Superficial is fine, just so long as it’s plausible.
Ask her about her new iPhone, find out where she goes to school, get her opinion on her favorite laundry detergent, whatever.
Then when you walk over there, tell her FIRST that you’re NOT trying to pick her up or get her number.
This will set her mind (and YOURS) at ease, so you can relax and focus on the conversation.
Just say something like this:
“Hey, my name’s George. Don’t worry, I’m not trying to pick you up or anything, I was just wondering about something…”
And then ask her the question.
This way it’s much, much easier to measure her interest. If she gives you her name without you asking, for example, that’s a good sign.
If she seems eager to talk to you and continue the conversation, that’s a good sign.
If you’ve talked to her for a few minutes, and everything seems good (body language, etc) tell her you’ve changed your mind.
Just say you’ve enjoyed talking to her, and you’d like to hang out later, and then get the number.
Of course, things will go much smoother if within that easy first conversation, you are using the language patterns of covert hypnosis.
Designed to elicit wonderful feelings in her, that she’ll associate with you.
Giving you a better chance than ever.
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