Most guys are doing well with their new “girlfriends,” until they get into an argument.
As soon as you get sucked into an argument based on “chick logic,” it’s all over.
Truth is that most people, guys and girls, wouldn’t know the structure of a purely logical argument if it came gift wrapped with a giant red ribbon.
We are purely emotional creatures, and most of the time, our emotions are running the show.
The reason it “seems” like we’re speaking logically is that we usually hang out with other guys who have the same set of beliefs and subjective ideas as we do.
Because we all spout the same emotionally based stories, it’s easy to pretend we are speaking logically.
Which is why pretty much EVERYBODY on planet earth can get together with like minded friends and pretend they are the only ones that “get it” while everybody else is a clueless idiot.
When you start arguing with your girl, with whom you likely have a completely different set of beliefs, it can seem that she’s being completely “irrational.”
But she’s not really being any more irrational than you and your buddies. It’s just that you and your buddies are all irrational on the same wavelength.
So what do you do when you start arguing? Realize the signs of an argument, and back off. DON’T get sucked into it.
NEVER try to convince her that she is “wrong” and you are “right.”
You’d have better luck trying to train a gorilla to play the violin while riding a unicycle across a tightrope.
Ain’t gonna happen.
Wanna know what’s REALLY going on?
You feel butt hurt, likely because your subjective beliefs aren’t being acknowledged.
Get over it.
Whenever arguments show up, take a step back (mentally) and just agree with whatever she says. Then just state what you believe, using the word, “and.” NEVER use the word “but.”
I see what you’re saying. I agree that [whatever she said]. And I feel that [whatever you believe, even if it’s directly opposite of what she just said]. What do you think we should do?
If you agree her course of action, fine. If not, just rinse, repeat. Listen, agree, and then say what you think you should do.
If you remain calm, she’ll usually run out of steam pretty quickly. This also works fantastically well with girls you AREN’T sleeping with, your boss, little kids, pretty much anybody.
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