Other people’s opinions of us is important.
Even though we’d like to pretend otherwise.
Consider this mental experiment.
You find yourself at a party.
Filled with interesting people.
Attractive people, connected people, respected people, high status people.
Which would you rather have?
You leaving the party and everything thinking this about you:
Wow, that guy was pretty cool. I hope I see him again.
Wow, that dude was really weird. I hope I never see him again.
Naturally EVERYBODY would like the first outcome.
Let’s look at this simple experiment from a different angle.
It’s a couple weeks later, and you walk into another party, with more or less the same people.
As soon as you walk in, one of two things happens.
One, you walk in EVERYBODY looks at you with genuine smiles.
The attractive people, the high status people, the respected people.
And EVERYBODY remembers your name.
Everybody is eager to talk to you.
OR, think of an opposite effect.
As soon as you walk in, a look of fear crosses everybody’s face.
They all quickly turn away HOPING you don’t come and talk to them.
Everybody would choose the first option.
We LOVE to get positive, REAL, social validation from others.
We are TERRIFIED of negative social validation.
In fact, one of the most important things to us (beyond food and sex) as social creatures is to get as much positive social validation as possible.
To act and speak in ways that will get us that positive social validation.
This, besides sex, money, and food, is our PRIME DIRECTIVE.
To have such a positive impact on strangers that getting money and sex is a natural outcome.
So the money question is ALWAYS how do we “do” that?
Everybody is different.
Every party is different.
Everybody is always in different moods.
So the answer to that question, (how do you do that) is ALWAYS different.
At least from a content level.
If you walked into every party with the same set of jokes, the same collection of stories, that might work.
But what next?
There is, however, a communication STRUCTURE that is extremely versatile.
And extremely impressive.
We all try to make an impression.
We say things that require conscious understanding.
And we hope that conscious understanding will create emotional feelings in them.
Sometimes this works.
Sometimes it doesn’t.
But you can bypass that need for conscious understanding.
By leveraging loopholes in language.
And loopholes in thought.
And so long as you create happy funny feelings in their brains, using these loopholes will make you a party hero.
While everybody is trying to impress people with stories, you’ll just be reaching into their minds.
Controlling their minds.
Controlling their thoughts.
So they will think that you are some kind of wizard.
Some kind of wizard they are DESPERATE to see again.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.