Frame Control is an incredibly powerful skill. One thing that will always turn a woman on is a male who can dominate her. Now, there’s hard domination and soft domination. (I ain’t talking about whips and chains, so settle down!)
Hard domination is your typical jerk type behavior. He doesn’t appear to take anything, and he always seems to be in control. This sets off some triggers deep in her mind, which turns her on whether she likes it or not.
You could go that route, but you might end up in prison.
Or, you could try the route of “soft domination.” This will turn her on just as much, and you’ll attract a lot higher quality of women.
Hard domination is domination through implied physical violence, while soft domination is through extreme frame control. Meaning that no matter what happens, you’ll always seem to be in charge of the frame.
Being in charge of the frame means that you never feel out of your element. You may not be able to change the events happening around you, but you can certainly choose what meaning to put on these events, and determine how they relate to you in context of what you’re trying to achieve.
This sounds a little baffling. Say you’re walking down the street to get a burrito. That’s your objective. Suddenly a crazy guy shows up, and starts waving a gun around.
You could “give him” the frame, meaning that you’ve let him change the meaning of what you’re doing. Suddenly he’s the boss, and you’ll do whatever it takes to stay alive. Your goal has now changed. You no longer want the burrito.
On the other hand, you could choose to see him in the larger context of things. You still want your burrito, this nutjob is just an unexpected obstacle that has come up. You want to overcome this obstacle as quickly as possible, so you can go get your burrito.
The important thing to understand is that your actions, whether you let him steal your frame, or whether you maintain the frame, might very well be the same. You immediately adopt a low profile, hide behind a tree or whatever, and wait for the cops.
But your demeanor during that behavior will be completely different between that of someone who gives up their frame compared to someone who maintains their frame.
One guy is terrified and saying twenty Hail Mary’s, while the other guy is calm and relaxed, just waiting for the storm to blow over. The first guy’s life is flashing before his eyes, while the second guy is trying to figure out if he wants a spicy or an ultra-spicy burrito.
Girls are much, much more attracted to the second guy. Not because his actions are different, but his demeanor while he’s doing them.
The best place to demonstrate your frame control is during a conversation with her. Every single thing she says, no matter what, should be seen as a mere obstacle to get where you want to go.
Which is inside her pants.
Keep this in mind next time you get some “frame tests.” Instead of falling into a panic, just calmly overcome them, while imagining what color those panties are.
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