Two Sided Charisma
An attractive personality and outcome independence are related.
The more outcome independence you have, the more attractive you’ll be.
The opposite is also true.
Unless you are super famous, obviously rich or super handsome, the more dependent you are on the outcome, the less attractive of a personality you’ll have.
If you are dependent on outcome, you’ll generally only engage with those who can help you get that outcome.
If you are dependent on outcome, not getting that outcome will feel like a failure.
If you are dependent on outcome, you can come across as anxious, pushy or less than genuine.
On the other hand, consider somebody who truly IS outcome independent.
They engage with others not to get something, but only because they engage with others.
They give off a vibe of “if not you, then somebody else.”
They tend to have much more of a long game.
Plenty Of Chances
They see and interact with a world wide open with opportunities.
Because they interact with others just because they enjoy interacting with others, they have a lot more data in their brains.
Data about how to make people laugh.
About how to ask the right questions to make them smile and enjoy themselves.
About how to make others feel good.
And they create a set of assumptions in other people.
For example, imagine an attractive lady’s experience with somebody who is truly outcome independent.
From her perspective, all dudes are desperate to be with her.
The ones that don’t ask for the number want to, but their just too nervous.
The guys that do ask for the number do it clumsily.
Sometimes when guys ask for the number, they get angry when they don’t get it.
They get approached all the time by dudes who clearly only want one thing.
Sure, so long as she doesn’t mind the “attractive” guys who approach her for this, that’s no big deal.
But most dudes aren’t what she would call attractive.
Most dudes are nervous, not confident, insecure, and aren’t that interested in who she is.
This does cause anger in a lot of men.
But this is the way the world works.
But imagine her experience of a guy like you who is outcome independent.
Confident, self assured, playful.
You make her feel good.
You are the kind of guy she is looking for.
But you don’t seem to worried about getting her number.
You just enjoy the conversation, and bounce.
She wonders who you are.
What it is about you that makes you so laid back, playful, and confident.
Suppose you did this with one attractive girl per week.
Build Your Army
What would happen after a year?
You’d have fifty gorgeous ladies out there dreaming about you.
Which would create a self fulfilling cycle of ever increasing charisma.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.