When you approach a girl, there’s a flood of emotions swirling through your brain.
Some are evolutionarily programmed, others are due to your childhood and upbringing.
Which is which? Who knows.
The bottom line is how confident and congruent you are will have a HUGE amount of impact on how well the approach goes.
Let’s assume you’re an average looking guy, with average clothes, etc. When you walk up to a girl, she’s not going to puke due to your ugliness, but she’s not going to suddenly feel a wet spot in her crotch due to your amazing good looks.
Basically, you’re a normal guy.
Which means that the qualify of your conversation with her, and her resultant feelings will be your only hope of getting what you want.
What are some things that WON’T work?
Excessive nervousness, shifty behavior, judgment, meanness, excessive “niceness,” no sense of humor.
What are some of the things that WILL work?
Self confidence, self esteem, relaxed sense of humor, kindness, strong frame, acceptance, non-judgment.
How do you develop the second set of characteristics?
Appreciation.
This sounds kind of new agey and “out there,” but it works.
Practice this on a daily basis, you’ll see. First, appreciate yourself. Completely accept and appreciate yourself, just the way you are. With your EXACT history.
The more you do this, the easier it will get.
Second, start appreciating other people. EXACTLY as they are. Now, I’m talking about setting murders free and relieving people of their responsibilities.
I’m talking about appreciating normal people as they’re out walking around being normal.
Imagine what this will create.
Imagine this from her perspective.
She’s sitting there, maybe alone and maybe with her friends.
You come walking up, and start talking to her. Instead of throwing out some lines trying to covertly impress her with your badass alpha-ness, you’re genuinely interested in her, not just her looks.
Not only that, but she feels genuine appreciation. This is something she rarely feels from anybody, even herself.
Think she might be attracted to a guy like you?
Of course she will!
Practice this on a daily basis. Appreciate yourself, and appreciate others.
It will do wonders for your game.