They Gotta Want It
They say you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink.
This means unless the horse wants to drink, it won’t drink.
Just putting him in front of some water won’t do squat.
This is kind of like the joke about the light bulb.
How many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb?
But the light bulb has to really WANT to change.
This is why talk therapy can take FOREVER.
It’s also why trying to get your partner to lose weight is very, very dangerous.
If you go to therapy, it may take a while to dig down to the deeper issue.
When most folks go to therapy, the realize that something isn’t quite right.
And if they get a therapist that doesn’t happen to be “con artist” who’s only interested in sucking their insurance dry, the patient will have to go through a bunch of layers.
One is the presenting problem.
The one the patient THINKS is the issue.
They want something, but they can’t get it.
This is assumed, usually, to be some kind of external, mechanical issue.
But the real issue, if everybody is being honest, is much, much deeper.
So long as they really WANT to change (like the lightbulb), they’ll work through that junk.
Hey Baby, Lose Weight!
Similarly, if you try to get your girlfriend or boyfriend to lose weight, it will almost always backfire.
They’ll break up with you and THEN lose weight just to spite you.
Horses don’t drink unless they are thirsty.
Unless they want to.
For most people, this will always be a frustrating, unsolvable issue.
We see somebody doing something we don’t like.
Or they aren’t doing something that we want them to do.
This can be a girl whose number you want.
A customer you want to sell something to.
A boss you want a raise from.
A friend or partner whose agreement you’d like.
But most people use the horse argument.
We tell them why WE think they should do what WE want, but for our own reasons.
Since we LOVE our own reasons, we ASSUME everybody else will.
This is rarely the case.
Forget The Numbers
This is why most EVERYTHING is a numbers game.
Keep spitting out reasons why WE think they should do what WE want, and eventually we’ll get a few matches.
This a function of our ego.
We all have tons of ideas (that we think are fantastic) about what other people should be doing.
But every other human, (and most horses) will only do things when THEY want to do things.
So why not start from the inside?
Start at their inner, desire level, and EXPAND?
Turns out this is much, much easier.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.