When most guys think about creating attraction in girls, they tend to think in terms of “pulling one over on her.”
Meaning they are terrified of getting caught. As if a guy talking to a girl he’s attracted to, with the intention of creating attraction in her is some kind of evil moral violation of human nature.
In reality, girls dream constantly of getting “seduced” by the right guy. Now, they don’t enjoy getting hit on by drooling creeps all day long, but they long for that magic moment when they feel deep attraction to some guy for no apparent reason.
After all, girls read romance novels, and watch romantic movies like Twilight like guys watch porn.
For girls, that IS porn.
And just like when guys are watching porn, we imagine that it’s banging that girl on our computer screen, when girls watch those romance movies, they imagine it’s THEM getting swept off their feet.
Now, here’s a crucial distinction. A guy looks at a girl, and KNOWS right off the bat if she’s attractive or not. It happens in a split second.
Girls, on the other hand, don’t know if they’re attracted or not until they talk to the guy, since looks matter much less to women than they do to guys.
So when you’re walking up to talk to a girl, unless you’ve got grease stains on your shirt, and you don’t have your hand stuck down your pants, (meaning you look like a normal guy) she’s actually HOPING that you will have enough “game” to sweep her off her feet.
You obviously want to be successful, or else you wouldn’t be walking over there. But SHE wants you to be successful as well.
You BOTH want the same thing. There’s no trickery, not deception, no stealing from her cookie jar.
Just two people, talking to each other that are both genetically programmed to WANT to want each other.
You’ve just got to have the right frame, so it happens naturally.
What’s the right frame? A guy who’s got it together. A guy who’s making something of himself. A guy who knows what he wants (which includes HER) and isn’t afraid to take a few risks, learn from his mistakes, and get it.
Bottom line? Start building your life, and girls will follow.