A friend of my in college, (way back when lol) once played a clever trick on me.
We were living in the dorms, and he “convinced” me that this pretty cute girl, who lived down the hall, was really into me. He said she’d confided in him her attraction, and that I’d better go and talk to her.
He also told her that I was secretly in love with her, and that I was dying to talk to her.
In reality, I knew she existed, and she knew I existed, but we didn’t really feel any “real” attraction to each other.
But, as I’m sure you know, often times what is “real” is completely irrelevant. It’s what we believe that’s so important.
So I went walking down the hall, to this cute girls room, thinking it was a “sure thing.” And she was expecting me, thinking that I was coming to tell her how much I liked her.
Guess what? Even though both were blatant lies, told by my conniving prankster friend, we actually had a pretty good conversation. Now, we didn’t end up dating and getting married or anything, but we became pretty good friends after that.
As it turned out, my friend felt guilty soon as the conversation started, and spilled the beans. Being college kids, we all thought it was pretty funny. After all, I had talked to a cute girl that I wouldn’t have otherwise talked to, and she had some incredibly handsome guy (lol) come knocking on her door and try and sweep her off her feet.
Despite what you see in the movies, this doesn’t really happen all that often in real life.
Most of us are still trapped, in our minds, back in a Junior High School dance where all the boys are on one side, and all the girls on the other side.
But what if you convinced yourself that girls, boys, potential clients, (or anybody else for that matter) was desperate for you to go over and start up a conversation?
Would that make your social life more interesting? Your business life more interesting? Your professional life more interesting?
You bet it would!
The great news is that anything you see out in “reality” can be used to support pretty much any belief you create for yourself.
That’s why the world can look incredibly different (even though it’s the same) when you shift into a more positive mindset.
Luckily, this is pretty easy. With some of these language patterns (originally designed for therapy and sales) changing beliefs is as easy as changing a pair of sunglasses.
See for yourself: