Most guys approach girls with a horrible mindset.
One of scarcity and supplication. You hope you “pass” her tests. You hope she doesn’t “reject” you. Hoping you won’t get rejected presupposes that she has the power to reject or accept you.
Which presupposes that she’s got some sort of power over you.
This will affect your behavior, your language, your facial expressions and body language. All of which will kill any chances of alpha-level attraction.
Sure, if she’s lonely, desperate, hasn’t been hit on in a while, or is just bored and wants somebody to talk to, then this attitude may work for a while.
But if you want to get her juices flowing, and get her longing for you when you’re not around, this ain’t gonna work.
Economics. Well, don’t walk up and start talking about supply and demand curves.
But start to think of pick up like an economist. Think in terms of exchange. You give her something, and she gives you something in return.
Most guys just assume she’s got something you want. She looks hot, and that’s usually enough.
So guys go over there, and hopefully present themselves so she’ll take your personality in exchange for some of her physical affection.
But instead of just assuming that she’s got everything you want and need, don’t just jump the gun.
Sure she’s hot, but is she good in bed? Does she have some horrible skeletons? Is she a smoker? Does she enjoy running over puppies?
Think of a few non-physical things that would be a great addition to her looks, and then check and see if she’s got them.
Think of what this presupposes. Sure she’s hot, but you’re not quite sure if she’s the whole package.
That first conversation is not about you proving yourself to her, it’s two people, having a conversation, to see if there’s a basis for exchange. Maybe there is, maybe there isn’t.
This will demonstrate the qualities that all girls deeply crave. Self confidence, non-neediness, and you’re interested in HER, not just her body (although it is a great side benefit).
And when you throw these incredibly seductive language patterns on top of that, which will move her mind in directions she never knew existed, she won’t know what hit her.