There’s a couple of different ways to ask for the number.
The simplest, and sometimes easiest way is the simple hit and run approach. You walk up, introduce yourself, and say something like, “Hey, you’re cute, give me your number,” and then hand her your phone to type it in.
Clearly, this isn’t a high percentage method, but it works. If you approach ten or twenty girls in a day, you may get 5-10 numbers.
However, chances are when you call her, she won’t likely remember you. Or maybe she remembers you as the “guy who goes around asking girls for their number.”
Ideally, when you call her, (either the first time, or the millionth time) you want her to be happy it’s you, and you want her to be excited to talk to you. You definitely DON’T want her to think, “Who’s this guy?”
Then even if you do call, and she does answer, you’ve got to start from square one.
The best possible time to ask for her number, to ensure she looks forward to your call, is look for signs of increasing interest DURING the conversation.
In NLP, whenever you “anchor a state” it’s best to do it while the state is RISING in intensity. That makes it much more powerful.
It does take practice, but it works wonders.
So when you’re in a relaxed conversation, after you’ve gotten past the introductions and the icebreaker, and you’re just talking about whatever, look for signs of INCREASING interest.
Like when she turns her body closer to yours, or slightly opens up her body language, or when you touch her and she reciprocates. Any sign that she’s warming up to you during the conversation.
STRIKE WHILE THE IRON IS HOT
Don’t wait around for the conversation to end, when both are you are expecting the question to come.
Notice that she’s warming up, tell her you’ve got to go, but you liked talking to her, and you’d like to “hang out” in the future.
THEN give her your phone, then split.
Now, this is hard to do when you’re nervous and anxious. It takes practice.
But this can help. A lot.
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