All girls are incredibly selfish.
Now, this may sound very harsh, and the beginnings of a long, woman-hating rant, but consider this:
All PEOPLE are incredibly selfish.
Now, whether you believe this or not, just “try this on” as a model, and see if it doesn’t make things easier.
Everybody is always looking out for number one. Maybe in the short term, maybe they’re running some long term angle, maybe they consciously know what they’re doing, or maybe they’re just running off instincts.
But they ARE selfish.
Dawkins shook the world when he published “The Selfish Gene” many decades ago. He pointed out that all of our genes, hence all of us, operate from purely selfish instincts.
Now, at this point, somebody usually says, “But what about that story in the news where the guy ran into the house, saving people he wasn’t related to, and then died. How can that be selfish?”
Consider his feelings upon looking at the burning house. When realizing there were innocent people in there, it gave him a horrible feeling. A horrible feeling he wanted to go away. And that horrible feeling DID go away when he raced in to save them.
So, in a sense, he was acting to DECREASE is own horrible feelings.
Still with me?
Whether or not you fully agree with this model, consider this.
All girls are selfish. All guys are selfish. When a girl gives a guy her number, she’s hoping she’ll benefit from the interaction.
When a girl has sex with a guy, she’s doing it because SHE will enjoy it, for her own reasons. Maybe she’s thinking short term, maybe long term. Who knows.
But one thing she DOESN’T do is see having sex with a guy, or even giving out her number as some kind of charity case.
It’s NOT LIKELY that she will EVER think of interacting with a guy in terms of anything other than what’s in it for her.
Which means if you approach any girl with hopes of receiving something for nothing, or “getting lucky” or seeing it as “her GIVING you” her number, like some princess gives out old food to peasants, you will be let down.
Instead, see EVERY interaction with a girl as an EXCHANGE. She gives you what you want if you can give her what she wants.
Make her glad she met you, instead of hoping to “get lucky.”
How do you do that? Give her those feelings she craves. Feelings of being in the presence of a guy who’s in control of himself. A guy who controls his own frame. A guy who knows what he wants.
She wants a leader, not a beggar.
Talk to her the right way, and she’ll see what YOU’VE got and will be desperate to give you whatever you want in order to get it.