It’s easy to slip from alpha to beta.
If you walk into a joint like you own the place, open up a few cuties to warm up, you feel pretty good.
You move on through a few sets, maybe getting a couple numbers.
These girls aren’t anything special, but you never know.
Then you see HER.
The girl that you fantasize about. The one that looks like that one porn star.
And she’s looking at you just the way you like it.
Since you’re sufficiently warmed up, you make a move.
But something’s different this time. She knows you’re feeling slightly out of your element.
All the other girls thus far were kept on the “defensive” due to your alpha “vibe.”
But this girl shoots down alphas like she changes her shoes.
Suddenly, you’re confidence is gone. Vanished. Non existent.
And she knows it.
All of a sudden, she’s doing all the qualifying. You find yourself trying to find a place in her frame, her world, instead of the other way around.
What just happened?
Think of it this way. When you’re feeling alpha, you’re leaning forward in your mind. You’re looking toward the future, and screening everything you see.
Your assumptions about the girls you see are turned off. You’re skeptical. You’re not sure about a girl unless she proves she’s worth your time. They can sense this. This makes you incredibly attractive to them, and they don’t know why.
Then you see HER. She sends out a shockwave of sexual lust that knocks you off balance. Suddenly your mind’s not leaning forward anymore. She’s so hot, she’s looking at you in that way, that every microsecond that ticks by is less power for you, and more for her.
She’s like a frame vampire, stealing all of your control, and leaving you in beta supplication land like every other drooling fool.
How do you prevent against such an attack?
Practice looking at super hot girls, and FORCE your brain to automatically wonder about their personality. Is she crazy? Is she expensive? Does she have a boyfriend that’s getting out of prison in a couple weeks?
Keep in mind this DOES NOT mean to slam her in your mind. Be curious, not condemning. Plenty of guys see hot girls, realize they’ll NEVER have them, and then make up some “story” to make themselves “feel better.” Like she’s a slut, she’s not a “quality woman,” or whatever.
Don’t do that.
This is also different than that often heard advice of “imagine her taking a dump.”
You don’t want to automatically disqualify her. You just don’t want to automatically qualify her.
Instead, just be curious. Practice withholding your approval.
See, right now, there’s plenty of girls who have a mix of beauty and sex appeal that your caveman brain automatically switches into “please accept me goddess!” mode.
The trick is that with practice, you can reprogram your brain so instead of your caveman brain responding with that unhelpful nonsense, instead you’ll automatically respond with questions about her personality. Sure, you she’s got a nice one, but you aren’t sure until you talk to her.
The more you practice, the better you’ll get. And the less likely you’ll get thrown off balance.