A lot of people grumble about a lack of loyalty today.
This is based on a misunderstanding of cause and effect.
We believe that because of the way things happened in the past, that’s the way they are SUPPOSED to happen now.
Particularly when we look back in the past and cherry pick the good parts.
For example, you might look back in the past and see much less divorce.
And you conclude that is “normal.”
That is the way people are “supposed to” behave.
So when people are not doing that today, they are not doing what they are “supposed” to do.
Not what they “should” do.
This sets up an almost guaranteed failure.
Which, according to Buddha, is the source of all pain.
Of expecting the world to “be” a certain way.
And then realizing the world is NOT that way.
Think about this from a different perspective.
Think about something you really enjoy doing.
What Would You Do?
Playing video games, whatever.
Then imagine a group of people “out there” who think you SHOULDN’T be doing that.
Will their opinion of what you should or shouldn’t be doing have any impact on your behavior?
So what is this thing called loyalty?
This thing people very much want but can’t find?
Consider that other people’s loyalty is a RESPONSE to your behavior.
The more benefit they receive from you, the more loyalty they’ll express.
Of course, it’s a bit more complicated.
They benefit from you, you benefit from them.
You are the leader, they are the follower.
This is the ideal situation to create loyalty.
But this is not a set and forget thing.
If you STOP giving them any benefit, a lot can happen.
They may simply coast along, while the mutual “benefit” gets weaker and weaker.
Or they may abandon ship.
Today, it’s much, much more socially acceptable, and financially possible, to abandon ship.
In the past, not so much.
So while you CAN see differences in divorce statistics, you can’t see how much mutual benefits were in those relationships in the past.
What would it mean if half of the people who DIDN’T get divorced in the past were MISERABLE?
And they only stayed together because there weren’t any other choices?
But they money question remains.
Does It Exist
Where do you find loyalty?
It starts with YOU.
So long as you maintain a very strong frame, not just in the beginning but always, people will always stay loyal to you.
If you do a lot of work to get a six pack, and then go back to eating junk food, you’ll lose your six pack.
If you do a lot of work to get a good relationship, but then assume it’s set and forget, you’ll lose the relationship.
The longer you build and KEEP a massively strong frame, the more loyalty you’ll build and KEEP from your followers.
Strong frame naturally elicits strong loyalty.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.