Some people are control freaks. They can’t do ANYTHING unless EVERYTHING is spelled out 100%.
Maybe you know a few people like this. Maybe you ARE somebody like this.
On the other hand, some people never plan ANYTHING. Their favorite motto is that “an arrow without a target never misses its mark.” Which basically means if you never try anything, you’ll never fail.
Clearly, both of these mindsets are a bit extreme. Either one will send you either to the nuthouse or the poorhouse.
Some of the greatest inventions of all time were purely by accident. Like post it notes, or Reese’s peanut butter cups (at least according to the ad, lol).
Other inventions are made purely by intention and focus, like Edison’s light bulb.
One powerful model that has been used by many inventors is a combination of the two.
Meaning they sort of know what they want, but they set up an environment to kind of “let it happen.”
Like they may have a vague idea of creating a better widget, but they don’t really know how, so they play around in their lab until they find something that works.
Creating relationships with girls is kind of the same way. Plenty of guys get hung up on thinking they need to know “exactly” what to say, and “exactly’ when to number close, etc.
But in reality, humans have done pretty well in the “get girl make more people” department, since there’s so many people on Earth, when before there wasn’t.
So you can’t really go too wrong just trusting your inner caveman to know when to make a move.
So long as you have an idea of what kind of relationship you want, and you leave the specifics (like who you’ll be in a relationship with) you just need to get out there, talk to and enjoy women, and just let it happen.
The more clear you are with the type of girl and the type of relationship you want, the sooner it will happen.
If you don’t have any clue what you want, you’ll be filled with fear and anxiety.
If you are way to specific with what you want, you’ll need to get used to being alone.
That magic middle is where all the fun is.
It’s the same way with any goal. So long as you know what you want, and you’re flexible in how you’ll get it, you simply can’t lose.
This makes life a wonderful adventure, filled with girls, wealth, and all kinds of other good stuff.