If you’ve ever been out to eat at a restaurant, it’s easy to spot people on a “first date.”
Their at their best behavior, sitting up straight, using all the table manners they can remember.
You can even see that their facial expressions are polite, respectful, and attentive.
In other words, fake as a three dollar bill.
This is completely natural. We’re with somebody we like, we don’t want to mess it up.
So we behave in a way that we think will minimize our chances of failure.
The problem is that this really isn’t such a great strategy. Sure, we think by minimizing our chances of failure, we’re maximizing our chances of success.
But often times, especially when both parties are behaving this way, you end up with two people who become attracted to each other, only they’re both attracted to “pretend people.”
Then when they’re “real selves” come out, at least one of them is going to lose interest. Usually pretty quickly.
This is one of the paradoxes of human relationships. The harder you try with any specific individual, the more you try and impress them, the less “natural” you’ll be, and you’ll actually increase your chances of failure.
On the flip side, the more “natural” you are, the more true to yourself you are, meaning the less you worry about whether or not that person in front of you is going to “like you,” the more chances we’ll have.
One of the most attractive things is being self confident. An average guy who’s incredibly self confident is going to be much more attractive, on a deep level, than some billionaire who’s unsure of himself.
Sure, she’ll love his money, but she’ll put up with him.
If you’re completely and absolutely self confident, she’ll love you, and put up with everything else.
The easiest way to do that is to simply release any worry of what might happen. Just imagine she’s a close friend, and let her rip, so to speak.
Don’t hold back. Be your true self. Your genuine self. Your real self. Truly like and appreciate yourself, and let it show.
You’ll find this is the most seductive thing you can do.
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