Guys since the dawn of time have been trying to get girls to like them. In fact, most of the most beautiful works of art, cathedrals, and symphonies were written with the deep and ancient desire to get some.
Now, I don’t mean consciously that Mozart sat down and thought to himself “hmm, if this piece becomes popular maybe I’ll be able to get that red headed girl to notice me.”
It’s more of an unconscious desire. As Napoleon Hill mentioned in “Think and Grow Rich,” one of the common elements of super rich guys was that they had tons of sexual energy.
But they didn’t “spend” it all by getting laid all the time. They “transmuted” it.
Meaning they took this huge, unconscious desire, and because they couldn’t satisfy it, for whatever reason, they naturally channeled it into something else.
So if you happen to be sexually frustrated, welcome to the club. You and some of the greatest minds in history had trouble figuring out this “girl thing.”
The solution comes within a paradox.
If you’ve ever tried to get a loan from the bank, you’ve first got to prove that you can pay them back. But if you could pay them back, you really don’t need the loan in the first place.
They usually don’t give loans to broke people with no income.
Similarly, if you’ve ever been in a decent relationship, it’s easy talking to, and flirting with girls.
Why?
Because you don’t really need them. You’re just having fun, enjoying their company, not concerned at all with how they respond to you.
Which happens to be one of the most powerful aphrodisiacs ever.
If you’re confident, in the moment, not needy in the least, and talk to her like a buddy, being clear that you aren’t really concerned if she likes you or not?
She’ll fall head over heels.
On the other hand, if you try really hard, and feel as if the world will end if she doesn’t like you, you’ll come across as needy and desperate, pushing her away faster than vegan in a meat shop.
What’s the answer?
Just forget about the outcome. Focus on the present. Enjoy the interaction, without worrying about how it’s going to come out. If you get the number, great. If not, not biggie.
You’ll be sending her a powerful message that you respect yourself enough to never chase girls. You expect them to chase you.
Having a strong set of communication skills can definitely help. Some conscious understanding, backed by some powerful hypnosis is just what the doctor ordered.
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