I used to have this buddy in high school. All through the first two years ( went to a three year high school) he had this HUGE crush on this girl, but never said anything.
Finally, there was this party (we didn’t start going to parties until our third year) and the two of them were together.
I kind of “pushed” him into talking to her, and at first it was awkward. You know high school kids, right? Not too sure of themselves, overly worried about saying the wrong thing, afraid to “mess up.”
Kind of like us grownups, lol.
Anyhow, the more they talked, they more they kind of “warmed up” to each other. Pretty soon they started dating, and after they felt comfortable enough, he’d told her that he’d had a crush on her for a while.
Now, this is not something I would do myself, or recommend that others do. When you finally get with somebody you’ve been pining for, sometimes it’s just best to count your lucky stars and enjoy the ride.
Anyhow, when he told her, she told him that she’d felt the same way. She said she’d been “trying” everything to get him to go after her, but because he was “ignoring” the signals, she’d assumed that he wasn’t interested.
Of course, most guys, especially in high school, are completely blind to the signals that girls send out.
These two were lucky. Most of us aren’t so lucky.
How many of us carry around things we’d like to say, but are waiting for the right moment, or waiting for some kind of sign from heaven?
The really sad part is that most of the stuff we’re afraid of saying, or asking for, would go perfectly well if we’d just get over our imaginary fears and spit it out.
I was with a friend once, who had a young daughter. We were at the movies, and she’d talked me into buying her a soda.
We walked up to the counter, and I tried to get her to ask for what she wanted. She, being a shy young girl, was too nervous to ask, so I had to order for her.
How many of us are like that shy young girl, too afraid to ask for what we want? The great paradox is that once we ask, it’s almost always given to us, in some form or another.
Sure, we might have to do something in exchange for what we want, but more often than not this will only just sweeten the deal for both parties.
Just imagine how much better life would be if could simply speak your mind, ask for what you wanted, when you wanted, without fear or worry?
Well, the good news is you can. Once you realize how easy it really is.
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