Most guys let themselves be driven by caveman instincts when out interacting with women.
Meaning they figure they’ll just kind of “wing it” when they see a cute girl.
Now, if you’re brave enough, and you interact with enough ladies, you can slowly “learn from your mistakes” and consistently get better.
But this has a couple of problems. One is that most guys don’t have near the courage to approach on a regular basis, just for the sake of practice and consistent skill improvement.
The other is that it’s very easy to get “caught.” Meaning if you don’t have a clear idea of the kind of girl you’re after, or the kind of relationship you want, any girl that’s friendly to you will set off all those caveman triggers and convince you that she’s “The One.”
This can lead to unhealthy relationships, inaccurate views of what’s really going, and a serious degradation of your skills.
After all, if you spend a year or so in a relationship that’s destined to fail, you’re only wasting valuable time, but you’re letting your skills get incredibly rusty.
So when you finally do find yourself on the market again, not only are you a year older, but your skills are pretty much back to beginner level.
This is why looking at creating a relationships is NOT something you should leave to your caveman brain.
Relationships are crucially important to your life. The right one can help you create an abundant life filled with riches and prosperity. The wrong one can make you suicidal, or worse.
Shouldn’t you take the time to figure out what you want, and take the time to learn the skills to get it?
Think about it this way. If you spent six months really building up your skills, as well as coming up with the specific criteria you want, you’d be a billion miles ahead of most other guys out there hoping to “get lucky.”
And you’d be much more likely to see a positive, rewarding relationship for what it is. Not an ends in itself, but one of many ingredients in building a successful and abundant life.