Take a look through your past, and see if you’d had this kind of experience.
You meet a girl, everything’s going good, and then she kind of loses interest.
She stops returning your texts, your calls, and makes herself scarce.
Hits you in the gut, right?
When this happens, it’s easy to point fingers and play the blame game. One common solution is to blame her (or women) as some kind of flake, like she played you or something.
This is dangerous because it can lead to a deep and unconscious hatred and mistrust for women. This isn’t the best mindset to meet tons of women.
A more insidious response is to blame yourself. You tell yourself that she liked you at first, but then when she met the “real you” she decided you weren’t all that, so she split.
This, of course, will destroy your self image. Having a crappy self image is not so helpful in getting tons of quality girls to choose from.
When a girl is into you and then not into you, it can mean one of two things.
One is she’s got a few different personalities. Now, as common as this description is, it’s not usually correct. I know that guys spend all time on various message board trying to blame everybody but their poor game, but this only saves your ego.
Cognitive dissonance goes a long way. (Cognitive dissonance is a common trait we ALL share, where we basically lie to ourselves to save our ego any pain).
What’s the real problem?
Any time you are consciusly using any techniques from “game” you aren’t being yourself.
As soon as you relax into your unconscious, normal behavior, you ARE being yourself.
So if she’s attracted to you in the beginning, because of some kind of game you were running, she’s going to be confused later when your real self shows up.
It’s not that she doesn’t like your real self, it’s just your real self is different than your “game” self.
Even if you don’t think you’re using any kind of “game,” chances are when you first meet her, you’re behaving differently than you normally do.
Now, I know that this is to keep from getting rejected. It’s totally natural.
But not every effective.
If you are your honest, real, true self from the beginning, you may not pull as many ladies, but the ones you DO pull are going to be into YOU, and not any kind of game you are running.
Now, wouldn’t you rather have your schedule filled with girls who are after YOU, rather than some persona you’ve got to keep up?
It will help out a lot if you learn to feel comfortable in your own skin, everywhere, around anybody.
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