Attraction isn’t a choice. And the number one rule of fight club is to NEVER talk about Fight Club.
These two statements work hand in hand.
When creating attraction, as a guy you’ve got to simply step back and let it happen. Unlike guys, who know whether or not we’re attracted to a girl within a couple microseconds, most girls need time.
They are wired to become attracted to a guys personality and character, rather than looks.
Even though it takes time, it’s still ENTIRELY unconscious. A girl can’t “choose” to become attracted to a guy any more than a guy can “choose” to feel sexually attracted to a girl. It either happens, or it doesn’t.
But some guys mistake the length of the process of female attraction to conscious thought.
Meaning they think that because it takes time, they can somehow “speed up the process” by talking about it. They think they can convince her consciously to become attracted to them, just like a salesperson would convince a customer consciously to buy the product.
Don’t do this.
If you feel yourself thinking about “talking” about your feelings for her, or where you stand with, or even “how you’re doing” during the seduction, don’t.
It will almost always have the REVERSE effect, and kill any chances.
Because talking about whether or not she’s attracted to you sends off HUGE signals of desperation and neediness. The two arch enemies of female attraction.
Always think of “Fight Club.” The first rule of Fight Club? NEVER talk about fight club.
So, if you’re not supposed to talk about attraction, how do you create it, and more importantly, how do you know when it’s happening?
Generally speaking, if a girl is starting to become attracted, you’ll know. You’ll “feel” it on some level. Chances are, if you aren’t sure, she’s NOT into you.
But if you NEED to check, NEVER ask. Always test. Close to the next level. How she responds will tell you everything.
Ask for her number, touch her on the shoulder, put your arm around her, lean in for the kiss. Just be confident, assume the close, and make a move.
If she responds positively, you’re in.
Of course, how you speak with her BEFORE you close will have a HUGE impact on how much unconscious attraction you’ll build. There are certain language patterns that will help.
Originally designed for sales and therapy, these are fantastic for sending her mind in all kinds of wonderful directions.