This is a trick from Ben Franklin. That dude knew how to party.
Whenever you’re out interacting with women, pay close attention to your failures. Anything that doesn’t go the way you wish it went.
Now, some people will teach you to ignore your failures, and focus only on your success. This is a wise strategy if you’re getting mostly successes, and few failures.
But humans are hard wired to learn from failure, not success. When we learn to walk, for example, we don’t pay much attention when we get up and move around without falling down.
Only when we fall down do we remember to pay close attention to our balance and center of gravity.
How does this apply to seduction?
Whenever something doesn’t go well, remember it. Within 24 hours (hopefully before the night is over) write it down. Write down what happened, and then take some to figure out what you had done differently.
Now, it’s important to not consider it a “failure” if you gave it your best shop and you didn’t get what yo wanted. After all, women have free will and even the most persuasive natural can’t get everybody.
What you want to consider is those actions that you could have performed better. Like asking for her number a little more smoothly, or going for the kino a little earlier, or ejecting sooner.
Think of something you did, that you can improve on.
Then visualize the experience, but instead of visualizing it as it happened, visualize it with you performing the new behavior, and getting a different result.
And be sure to call up plenty of good emotions when “remembering” it a bit differently this time.
That way, when a similar situation comes up in the future, you’ll have more options.
If you did this every time you didn’t behave in a way you think you could have, pretty soon you’d develop some incredibly powerful skills.
Of course, this won’t work if you don’t do it.