A common phrase from self help is:
What the thinker thinks, the prover proves.
This is essentially a description of our confirmation bias.
What we think is true, our confirmation bias will point it out.
Imagine that your confirmation bias is like a very loyal employee.
Only this extremely loyal employee isn’t exactly the kind of person who can think on the spot.
So long as you give them SPECIFIC directions, they’ll carry it out no matter what.
If you are at the supermarket looking for bananas, your helpful confirmation bias will point out all the yellow things.
If you’re driving around looking for something to eat, your helpful confirmation bias will point out ALL the buildings that look like they COULD be fast food restaurants.
But confirmation bias also had the job of VERIFYING beliefs.
Strength Vs. Content
Having a belief that is strong is better than having a belief that is weak.
No matter what the content is of the beliefs.
This is kind of like a frame battle.
Cult leaders are cult leaders BECAUSE of the strength of their frame.
NOT the content of their frame.
Similarly, once we have a belief, any kind of belief, our confirmation bias will point out EVIDENCE.
That is its factory setting.
Imagine two ancient warriors on a long journey.
One has a very STRONG belief, supported by their confirmation bias that they are on the right path.
Yep – Keep Going
Everything they see verifies they are on the right path.
Another has a very weak belief system.
A very scatter-brained confirmation bias.
This poor guy runs around in circles, always changing course.
Over the generations, the first guy significantly out populates the second guy.
So here we are today.
With a confirmation bias that supports whatever beliefs we have.
One guy is walking down the street, thinking ALL the ladies dig him.
So everything he sees VERIFIES that.
He passes by tons of people.
But his confirmation bias, doing the job of finding evidence of his “girls dig me” belief, only point out the ladies that VERIFY that belief.
Another guy has a belief that girls want to kick him in the nuts.
So HIS confirmation bias points out ONLY those girls who radiate that kind of “I’m going to kick you in the nuts” energy.
Now, here’s the MONEY question.
The HONEY question.
All the girls the first guy saw, that his confirmation bias thought was evidence of the “all girls dig me” belief, what were they REALLY thinking?
Were they REALLY thinking about having sex with that guy?
Or did they just happen to be thinking happy thoughts and just RANDOMLY had a smile on their face when they passed the first guy?
Our beliefs, our confirmation bias doesn’t know, doesn’t care.
From the perspective of our confirmation bias, ANY EVIDENCE will work.
So, how can you RE-PROGRAM your confirmation bias so you see evidence?
Any evidence you want?
To PROVE life is easy, fun, and fantastically romantic?
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.