Meaning is very flexible.
But this doesn’t mean it’s easy.
Metal is flexible under the right conditions.
Under the wrong conditions, metal can hold a lot of weight.
And can be very IN-flexible.
On the other hand, Jello is pretty much always flexible.
This is the core idea between frame strength.
There are two components of a strong frame.
One is how much agency you feel over the MEANING of random events.
The other is how STRONGLY you adhere to these meanings.
Consciously and unconsciously.
This is hard to fake.
Most of the time, for most people, this is completely outside of their conscious awareness.
For example, consider a guy who has always been a stone cold natural.
Most ladies he’s talked to since elementary school have fallen for him.
This is his model of the world.
The majority of his experiences are getting accepted by the ladies, rather than rejected.
So his model of the world is something like this:
Ladies like me.
So when he talks to a lady and she DOESN’T like him, his most common go-to reason is:
Something must be wrong with HER.
His frame shapes how he sees the world.
A guy talking to a girl and getting rejected is an objectively definable event.
But the meaning given to that even differs from person to person.
She might see this as PROOF that the world is filled with creepy idiots.
He’ll see this as PROOF that “most ladies” dig him.
Since she’s the exception that proves the rule.
Both the meaning he gives to events, AND the strength of those meanings is based on his frame, which is based on his life experience.
Boats and Wakes
A completely different situation would be a more normal person.
Who gets REJECTED most of the time.
Even the “best” players get about 10% success rate.
So they get rejected 90% of the time.
This is THEIR world.
Their frame is based on their subjective model of the world.
Most people have frames like this.
And most people have no idea WHY they have frames like this.
They have their frame, their model of the world, and that’s pretty much that.
Maybe they wonder why some people have it so easy.
Maybe they wonder why other people don’t think things are easy the way they think things are easy.
For most folks, this is where the idea of frame ends.
Something that simply exists, and you can’t do much about.
But they are wrong.
You can significantly alter how you perceive and give meaning to reality.
You can significantly how you respond TO that “new” meaning of reality.
It’s a little bit harder than just wishing it were true.
But if you’re willing to put in the work, you can make reality mean whatever you want it to mean.
And get whatever you want OUT of reality.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.