What Really Happened? This will be a purposely confusing post. This won’t come to a specific point, rather we will be taking some common ideas and taking them apart to see just how flimsy they are. Looking at things from a different angle is very helpful, if only for the skill in doing so. You […]
Useful Models And Mindsets
What Are Models? Models are ways of looking at the world. We humans are hopelessly behind the curve when it comes to being able to handle and make sense of all the data that is hitting our senses at any given second. Some studies show that the difference between what we are consciously aware of […]
Who Defines YOUR Reality?
One of my favorite lines from the TV show “Breaking Bad” is also a fun pattern from NLP. It’s based on the idea of ambiguity, where you’ve got a bunch of words together in a sentence, and it’s unclear, since there’s more than one meaning, which words apply to which other words. Like for example, […]
Use Flexibility Of Meaning To Define Reality On Your Terms
I used to do a lot of backpacking when I was younger. When it was just two or three of us, we did pretty good time. But somehow, as our groups were larger, it took a lot longer to go from point A to point B. Not just backpacking, but any kind of traveling. When […]
Become a Shaper Of Reality
Once upon a time there was this group of scientists. These were different from the scientists I talked about in yesterday’s email, but they had a similar problem. Yesterday’s problem was understanding how something worked. How reality was actually unfolding itself. Today’s story is about how these scientists had a pretty good idea of what […]
Proper Positive Thinking Using Well Formed Goals
Many people have heard of “positive thinking.” To some, this is nothing more than some kind of Pollyanna-ish view that everything is just peachy, no matter what happens. In fact, I knew this guy in college that was heavy into the positive thinking mindset. He always had something positive to say, what a great day […]
A Most Indispensable Skill
Trying to predict the behavior of others is always fraught with danger. But when you have an expectation of how somebody will behave, and they don’t? This can cause serious problems. Say you’re walking into a potential client’s office. You’ve got a big sales pitch planned. If you land a contract, it could be worth […]
The Danger Of Misplaced Meaning
Your brain is incredibly fast, but not very accurate. This was a crucial distinction made long ago. Instead of sitting there determining the precise probability you’d be eaten by a tiger, early humans developed a fast thinking brain instead of an accurate one. This kept us alive. Of course, sometimes we made mistakes. But better […]
Where Does NLP Come From?
Plenty of people think that politicians are “trained” in NLP and are using some kind of super secret wicked powerful manipulation to woo the voters. That’s how they get away with such ridiculous shenanigans that would quickly land you are I in the clink. But are they really using NLP? Yes, and no. See, NLP […]
Covertly Compounded Suggestions For Easy Persuasion and Influence
Here’s a quick language pattern to slip into your daily conversations whenever you want to “sneak” an idea into somebody’s head. Works like this: [what you want them to do] + [what you know they want to do] + [tag question] If you just say what you want them to do, they’ll likely have objections. […]