One of my favorite lines for the movies is from a movie called “Three Kings.”
One where a couple of soldiers were in the Gulf War.
And they found out there was a bunch of hidden gold nobody knew about.
So they were planning a gold heist in the middle of a war.
One young soldier was talking about his anxiety for this upcoming heist.
He said something like:
“How can I get the courage to do something like this?”
To which the older, more experienced guy replied:
“It doesn’t work like that. First you do the thing. Then you get the courage.”
Courage has often been defined as acting in the face of fear.
Anybody can wait around until things are easy.
Anybody can take easy action without risk.
Which is why everybody essentially lives their entire lives looking for shortcuts.
To go around the fear and risk.
But consider this harsh truth of life.
Walk Into It
Everything that you want, that is really valuable is on the OTHER SIDE of fear and uncertainty.
Not debilitating fear.
Not pure randomness.
Walking across the room to talk to a pretty lady is a good example.
There is fear.
There is anxiety.
Not enough to make you faint or lose control of your bodily functions.
There is also uncertainty.
You have no idea what she is going to say.
This is why MOST GUYS will do and believe ANY POSSIBLE THING to avoid simply walking over and saying hey.
But consider the flip side of this coin.
She’s standing there, not being approached by many guys.
The ones that do are likely using a lot of “techniques.”
Practiced openers, practiced conversational techniques.
Tons of memorized strategies with technical names.
But remember the quote from the movie:
“First you do the thing. Then you get the courage.”
This is kind of a metaphor.
What you “get” is a ton of endorphins that make you feel fantastic.
Just walking over there, facing fear and uncertainty will FLOOD your body with positive emotions.
This is the same reason you feel nervous BEFORE a speech, but after the speech you feel like a million bucks.
All this is based on only ONE event.
You feel fear, uncertainty and blast through.
Then you feel a surge of confidence.
Then, if you don’t do anything else, you’ll settle down into your natural state.
But suppose you KEEP doing those things?
To leverage the courage from the previous action in the next action.
So you will TRAIN YOURSELF to build a certain kind of expectation of courage BEFORE you do the thing.
And if you do this consistently enough, you’ll increase your natural feeling of courage.
The best way to do this is with public speaking.
Becoming a competent and natural public speaker will make you a competent and natural social operator.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.