There’s a famous story about an elephant.
When he was young they kept him tied up.
But when he got older they untied him.
But he kept staying in the same spot.
He still felt as if he were tied up.
Because when he was young, every time he tried to move outside of his comfort zone, he felt the rope pulling him back.
But when he got older, every time he THOUGHT of moving outside of his comfort zone, the memory of the rope pulled him back.
For most normal humans, we have the same setup in our brain.
The things that happened to us as kids largely still drive our behavior.
Most kids have a common experience.
We express a desire for something, and are told no.
Don’t Go There!
We got somewhere we are not supposed to, and are yelled at.
We do something we are not supposed to do, and are yelled at.
This is one major cause of self sabotage.
We start doing pretty good, but it feels kind of strange.
Like there is another shoe that is going to drop.
This makes us feel scared.
Our unconscious, and our ego doesn’t like this.
So it drives our behaviors to bring us back to a more “comfortable” situation.
These are all internal things.
But there are plenty of external things.
All Are Imaginary
Which are really internal things.
Not to us, but to the external things.
Suppose your boss or your spouse or partner starts yelling at you for no good reason.
At least not a reason you can think of.
This feels very familiar.
When we are kids, we are doing something fun and then we get yelled at.
We don’t interpret that as us doing something objectively “wrong.”
We interpret that as them, whoever they are, judging us for having some fundamental deficiency.
So when we get yelled at as adults, it sort of reminds of us of that.
Demons Yelling Demons
But in reality, the person yelling at us has PLENTY of their own “inner demons” that we, for whatever random reason, are reminding them of.
This is part of Jungian psychology.
We have metaphorical demons inside of us.
And when somebody OUTSIDE of us reminds us of our imaginary demons INSIDE of us, we project outward as strongly as we can.
So it’s never really about us.
The demons they are imagining aren’t real.
The demons you are imagining aren’t real.
Kill all the demons, and set yourself free.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.