I remember once when I came back from one of my first NLP trainings a few years back.
This was just when I was learning how incredible this set of skills was. I had heard about NLP from a friend, who was absolutely the most magnetic and charismatic guy I’d ever met.
He was this tall, skinny, bald headed guy with glasses, but wherever we went, girls would literally swoon over him just by the way he carried himself.
And when he would talk to waitresses, they would literally melt right in front of him.
He had this consulting business, and was absolutely KILLING it, so much that he only needed to work a few hours a week.
Anyhow, he suggested I read a few books on “NLP.”
I was like, “NL what?”
He mentioned a few books (some of the old classics like Tranceformations and Frogs into Princes,” and recommended a couple of trainers.
So off I went, devouring all the books I could find, and finally went to my first two week intensive training.
When I got back, my buddy asked me if I’d learned any “party tricks.”
Then it hit me just how versatile these patterns are.
Somebody’s got a problem? You reach in, move around their pictures, and fix ’em right up.
You want to playfully argue a point of view? Throw around some patterns, and everybody looks like they just took a giant bong hit.
Want to impress somebody? Elicit some of their criteria and away you go. Before long they’re looking at you like you’re some kind of angel from heaven.
This is what surprised me the most about NLP. Some people think it’s for therapy, some people think it’s for sales, some people even think it’s for politicians.
But if ALL you want to do is have fun at parties, there’s NO better bag of tricks.