You like girls, right?
Of course you do!
And the girls you’re after, either a specific girl or a specific type of girl, they like guys right?
Of course they do!
So what’s the problem?
Well, walking and talking to girls you’re interested isn’t so easy. There’s a lot to gain, which makes it seem like life or death, half a second left on the clock in the final game, do or die shot, etc.
If you fail, it feels like you’re going on that long walk of shame back to your buddies, or home, or back to your lonely corner of the bar.
So you’ve got these two opposing imaginary outcomes in your mind, one really, really good, and the other one really, really bad.
These two parts of you that are fighting to control your actions are enough to make anybody nuts.
I’ve mentioned many times before that simply letting go of the outcome is a great way to kill your anxiety for good.
If you truly didn’t care if you got rejected, or accepted, you would have a lot more success.
This is precisely why when you’re in a good relationship, you send off that vibe of not being concerned with how you are perceived by girls, which paradoxically makes you incredibly, almost irresistibly attracted.
The trick then, is to get and give off that vibe, and have that be independent of your relationship status.
Then you’ll have the very best of both worlds. You’ll be attractive to pretty much every girl you meet, on a deep unconscious level, so you can literally have your pick of the litter.
How do you get that vibe?
One way is to simply accept yourself. Accept your emotions. Accept your desires.
Think of it this way. You walk into a restaurant. You want to buy food. They want to sell you food.
Which do you think the restaurant owners would prefer, that you be embarrassed of your hunger, or you be fully accepting and expressive of your hunger?
Do you really think they’d want their customers to walk in, pretend they’re there for a reason OTHER than eating, like to ask the time, or find out where the waiter bought her blouse?
They LOVE a customer who walks in and says, “Dude! I am SO frikking hungry I could eat a HORSE! Whatta ya got?”
So why be shy when approaching girls. You’re in this world to meet girls. They’re in this world to meet guys. (or the right guy)
Accept your desire. Express your desire. Enjoy expressing your desire.
Learn to BUILD and leverage your desire, and channel that appreciation in ALL areas of your life.
So you can build an empire.