There’s a theory in NLP that everybody has all these different “parts.”
Most of the time, we’ve got all these parts that are trying to pull us in different directions. One part of us wants to sleep in, for example, another part knows it might feel good to get up early and get some work done.
One part of us knows that eating a big pile of cheese fries would taste fantastic, but another part of us doesn’t particularly like our ever expanding waistline.
Similarly, when we’re trying to convince somebody to do something, or even try and talk ourselves into doing something, there’s usually two parts to content with.
One part that thinks it’s a great idea, and the other part who’s afraid for some reason.
Now, humans have been around for a long, long time, and we wouldn’t have survived as long as we had unless we were pretty careful before taking action.
But unless we’re thinking of going skydiving for the first time, or rock climbing without any ropes, most of our fears are simply ungrounded.
Sure, they seem real in our imagination, but most of our fears are NEVER realized.
The paradox is that without our fears, we’d rush headlong off cliffs and take stupid risks that would send us to the hospital, or to jail, or worse.
So having fears is normal, healthy, and necessary.
But letting them keep you frozen isn’t. They’re there just to remind us that when we DO move forward, we should do so with eyes wide open, not shut.
If you’re feeling a bit stuck, or somebody you’re trying to persuade is feeling a bit stuck, looking at all the options, and the alleged “reasons” for “staying” stuck can be of great benefit.
These language patterns will help you examine all your choices (or their choices) from every angle you can think of, giving you and every person you know more choice than ever.
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