I was watching the movie, “Man on Fire,” the other night with Denzel Washington.
There was a scene where he was coaching the little girl for her upcoming swimming competition.
He said training is important, because people don’t rise to their highest level of performance, they rise to their highest level of training. Especially in a situation that suddenly falls in your lap.
What does this mean?
Most guys figure they’ll come up with “something” when they see the perfect lady. They’ll suddenly dig deep and say the perfect line, or come up with a burst of self confidence that they don’t usually have.
It’s a trick of the mind. Self deception.
It works like this. You see a girl, you’d like to bang the crap out of her. In order to do that, you’ve got to go and talk to her first.
But something stops you. What is it? Fear. That’s the only thing.
But most guys don’t like to admit their afraid, even to themselves.
(You know what I’m talking about.)
Instead, we come up with “stories.”:
She’s not my type.
She’s probably a slut.
I don’t really feel like it.
I don’t really want to.
She’s not a “quality” woman. (Whatever that means).
Then we tell ourselves that when we DO see a quality woman, we’ll suddenly have a burst of natural game. Only that never happens.
Why?
Not enough practice.
As Denzel’s character said, when push comes to shove, we’ll only rise as high as our level of training.
Boxers can only box as well as they’ve trained.
Violinists can only play as well as they’ve trained.
Seducers can only seduce as well as they’ve trained.
That girl across the bar? The one you’re “afraid” to go and talk to?
She’s not your dream girl.
She’s not the answer to your prayers.
She’s not your soul mate.
She’s probably not even a good lay.
What is she?
Practice.
Get to it.