I Did It
One interesting thing to notice is when celebrities mess up.
It can be a paradox if you don’t quite understand human nature.
But if you do understand human nature, it’s pretty straightforward.
A celebrity secretly, or tries to secretly, get together with a hooker.
Then they are discovered.
Then they try to deny, deny, deny.
Finally they admit it, and their career is ruined.
Or significantly damaged.
Both others admit it right away.
“Yeah, it was a bad decision, one I regretted immediately. I wish I hadn’t done it, now my focus is on fixing the damage I’ve caused.”
These folks tend to get off, or at least suffer a lot less damages to their career and their relationships.
Even if you aren’t a celebrity, the quicker you own up to and admit your mistakes, the better.
I’m Sorry You Feel That Way
On the other hand, if you make a kind of “fake apology” people will forever look at you sideways.
What’s a fake apology?
You do something and it hurts others.
A sincere apology would be:
“I’m sorry I did that. It was wrong and I regret it. I will do everything I can to fix the damage.”
A “fake” apology would be more like:
“I’m sorry you feel the way you do about what happened.”
This sort of sounds like an apology but it doesn’t admit any wrongdoing.
And it kind of externalizes the problem.
To pretend it’s more about their response to your behavior than your behavior.
You’ll find plenty of people like that these days.
Never My Fault
Crappy behavior, but never admitting any wrong doing.
The world is filled with people who are experts at externalizing any thing that happens.
People who, no matter what, are always ready with some kind of “It’s not my fault” kind of response.
Nobody really likes these types.
Not as friends, not as business partners, not as lovers.
The reason is pretty simple.
We like people based on how they handle unexpected things.
If you’re in a relationship with somebody who NEVER takes responsibility, that’s not a happy situation.
The whole point of a relationship, friendship or business or romantic, is be part of a team that takes care of business.
Nobody wants a partner that is always trying to shift blame.
Immediately acknowledging and owning up to problems is part of a congruent personality.
Being congruent doesn’t only mean being congruent with good stuff.
It means being congruent with EVERYTHING.
And because this trait is so rare today, it is incredibly attractive.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.
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