Don’t Leave Me
There is a very common trope in most TV shows and movies.
Whenever one guy is getting close to a lady.
Or vice versa.
The fear in the movies is that they other person will find out who they REALLY are and bail.
This is in plenty of movies because we all identify with it.
This is also a common reason behind relationships self sabotage.
It’s also a core cause of the common “imposter syndrome.”
You’re doing something really well.
New job, new relationship, something.
But then you start to get a little freaked out.
Like there’s another shoe about to drop.
The person who you’re getting close to will realize who you really are, get horrified and flee.
Your new boss, so far impressed with your performance will find out something about you and be disgusted.
That new “thing” you’re doing that is getting you more attention, more money and maybe even more popularity will blow up in your face.
Don’t Reject Me
This is also the common cause of social anxiety.
Part of you wants to go and engage with all those friendly people.
But part of you is also terrified of getting rejected by those same people.
We silly humans do all kinds of mental gymnastics to pretend we aren’t feeling what we are feeling.
So we keep ourselves trapped on the sidelines with all kinds of copes.
But at the same time, EVERYBODY feels the same way.
To a certain degree.
Pretty much everybody is pretending, to a certain degree.
The people in the game, the people on the sidelines.
Why is this?
It’s a function of our common childhood.
An experience that CAN heal itself.
Like when you touch a hot stove as a kid.
This one event, touching the hot stove, teaches that the stove is dangerous.
But then you realize slowly that the stove is a tool
To cook things like grilled cheeses and chocolate cakes.
And those later memories override the first one.
For some, this happens with social anxiety.
Later memories CAN override the earlier ones.
But for others, we aren’t so lucky.
Because when you understand the structure, you can do it yourself.
Slowly, carefully and boringly.
To turn yourself into a friendly, outgoing, social operator.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.