There’s this metaphor for the difference between heaven and hell, and it applies pretty well to using any kind of communication.
Most scientists are starting to figure out that the main reason we communicate is to get our needs met, rather than simply conveying information.
Even asking someone for the time is a perfect example. You want something, so you’ve got to get it from somebody.
You use your language to do so.
Even if you see an attractive person, just saying “hi” follows the same model. You’d like to get a smile and a couple of words out of them, so you give them first what you’d like to get.
Funny thing is, when talking about interpersonal relationships that aren’t based on any kind of business, this is pretty natural.
We want somebody to be friendly to us, so we first be friendly to them.
The advice, “If you want to make a friend, be a friend,” is often told to children because it’s so easy to understand on a basic level.
The thing is, though, even when doing any kind of sales, persuasion, or even seduction, the same model applies.
If you want something, you’ve got to give something first.
That’s why the language patterns in covert hypnosis are so incredibly powerful.
They’re designed to elicit as many internal feelings, beliefs and ideas as possible within the other person, so by the time you get around to asking for what you want, you’ve already given them plenty of what they want.
Making success, based on win-win outcomes, nearly guaranteed.
Which is the heart of the heaven and hell metaphor. Both places have the same stuff. Plenty of food, but these really, really long spoons. So long it’s impossible to feed yourself.
In hell, everybody’s greedy, selfish, fearful, so nobody helps anybody out, and everybody starves.
In heaven, it’s the opposite. Everybody gives first, knowing they’ll get fed later.
Everybody’s happy, and never hungry.
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