I’ve said many times before that holding a strong frame is the singular most crucial thing of getting all the girls you want.
I’d even go so far as seeking a guy who’s frame is stronger than everybody else around him is programmed into her DNA.
One of the curious things about humans, that very thing that made us the rulers of Earth, instead of say, Koalas, is our incredible flexibility.
A lot of our DNA programming is on the “structure” level, rather than the “content” level.
Take youth for example. All men are hard wired to be attracted to girls who display signs of youth.
But that means different things in different societies, it’s no problem. Anything that happens to be a “sign of youth” in any particular society will fire off our desire, automatically.
There’s literally hundreds of different micro signals that girls give off to indicate youth, many of them easily faked by clothing, surgery, makeup, etc. Even slighting raising the pitch of her voice will give a signal of “youth” when none is present.
Similarly, girls are hard wired to find indicators of a “strong frame,” and just like girls, guys do plenty of things to “pretend” to have a strong frame, where none exist.
Any kind of “external game” that you practice, when you’ve got weak internal game is an example of this. Cocky and funny, when you really don’t feel cocky and funny. Expensive clothes when you’re barely able to pay the rent. Walking with a swagger when you’re not really confident.
However, if you can develop a REAL frame, a STRONG frame, this will outshine all those other pretenders.
How do you develop a STRONG frame? Simply OWN everything that happens to you.
Never blame others for your situation. Always take responsibility for the way you respond and act in various situations.
Instead of crumbling into a pile of butt-hurt goo whenever she “tests” your frame, simply ask yourself, “Hmm, how can I use this to my advantage?”
While you certainly can’t control the world around you, you CAN certainly control how you interact with, and how you respond to it.
One POWERFUL way to really OWN your frame, no matter what, is have a solid set of goals that you are in the process of creating.
This will make it MUCH EASIER for you to develop the “hmm, how can I use this to my advantage” mindset.
Which, will naturally make you MUCH MORE attractive than all those other pretending clowns out there.