A while ago, I was dating this girl who’s brother didn’t speak any English. He was the man of the family, and he wanted to meet me.
To kind of “check me out,” so to speak.
So me and my girl, he and his wife went out to dinner. Even though we didn’t speak the same language, it was easy to promote a good image of myself, so he would “approve” of me dating his little sister.
I even knew exactly when he’d made the mental decision to “accept me.”
How did I do it?
By creating unconscious rapport. There’s a lot of mythology about rapport, but it’s actually pretty simple.
Which is pretty strange, because if you’ve ever bought something from a sales person who seemed a little too pushy, it’s because they didn’t create enough rapport. Or any, for that matter.
No matter how skilled of a sales person, persuader or communicator you are, without rapport, there’s not much you can do.
Which is why it is important to consciously remember to create rapport. Even if you’re talking to your friends or people you know.
No matter what your relationship is, the more rapport, the better.
The simplest way is to simply mirror and match their body language. Then as they move, you move.
Now, if you’ve got an intention of persuading them, at one point you’re going to need to “lead,” where you change your body position first, and make sure they follow.
But if you just want to create a deep feeling of trust and unconscious connection, that’s not really necessary.
And once you’re in rapport, leading or not, you’ll have a much, much easier time using the language patterns of covert hypnosis to get them agreeing to pretty much anything.
Combining rapport with these language patterns is a very powerful, and nearly irresistible one-two punch.
You’ll get them thinking just what you want them to think, and thinking it’s their ideas.
But even if you don’t use these patterns, creating rapport is incredibly powerful.
When I was with my girlfriend and her family, I just made sure that I sat across the table from her brother.
Then I spent the night matching his body language.
I knew I’d been successful when I leaned back, spread open my arms, and then he did the same.
No English required.
But if you want to give yourself an incredible edge, on top of your rapport skills, then definitely check out these language patterns.
You’ll be amazed what you can do.
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