Two Easy Rules
There are two critical ideas for any kind of social success.
And when I say social success, I mean ANYTHING that requires a one-on-one conversation.
Even if you have the perfect degree, nobody is going to hire you if you come across as a socially inept goof.
Even if you have all the seduction patterns in the world memorized, none of them will work if you deliver them with wooden melodrama.
What are the two ideas?
These are very VAGUE ideas.
They are descriptions, not recommendations.
Do This And Be Done
But if you can manage to pull them off, you’ll want for nothing.
One is a rule from Dale Carnegie.
That you can get anybody to believe anything so long as it is their idea.
What does this mean?
If you are telling the job interviewer what an AWESOME worker you are, it’s not his idea.
If you are telling him how smart and dependable you are, it’s NOT his idea.
This is one of those things that’s very EASY to understand, but very, very hard to do.
In fact, this is the ONE thing that sales people and marketers have been trying to work on since the dawn of time.
If you can write a sales letter, that doesn’t SEEM like a sales letter, but also gets the reader to decide, on their own, to buy the product, you’ll make a TON of money.
If you can talk to a lady or a guy, and get THEM to develop feelings for you, and think it was THEIR idea, you’ll seduce a lot of happy people.
Don’t Tell Anybody
What’s the second critical idea?
It’s from fiction writing.
Show, don’t tell.
If you tell the interviewer you’re punctual, he won’t believe you.
But if you SHOW him you are punctual, by being on time for all your meetings, he’ll believe you.
If you TELL him how smart you are, he won’t believe you.
But if you demonstrate your intelligence through your clever and creative answers, he’ll believe you.
What about in non-job type conversations?
Like for romance?
Suppose you walk up to a girl, and say:
“I’m interested in your opinion.”
Prove It, Buddy
Will she believe you?
Maybe, maybe not.
Because you are TELLING her.
Just like telling an interviewer you are intelligent, or punctual, or whatever else you think they want to hear.
How do you SHOW a guy or girl you’re interested in their opinion?
Ask them questions.
DEMONSTRATE that you are interested in the answers.
She or he will FEEL that you are interested.
It will be HER conclusion.
Being truly interested in other people’s opinions is a SKILL.
One Skill To Dominate
Something you can build.
Something that will also DEMONSTRATE something to everybody you talk to.
Something FEW people have, but plenty PRETEND to have.
Do this and EVERYBODY will enjoy you.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.