Rapport is a dangerous idea.
Everybody would agree that it’s necessary for any kind of persuasion.
That without rapport, you can’t do much.
But with rapport, you’ve got a fighting chance.
So why is the idea dangerous?
Because this is pretty much all people think about rapport.
It’s something simple you need to create along the way to your outcome.
Mirroring and matching body language.
Then leading rapport.
Where you move slightly and then they move slightly to keep up.
Even then, it’s something most people forget.
Because it happens naturally.
A human getting into rapport with another humans is almost automatic.
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The only time it’s NOT automatic if they suspect something is “off” about the other person.
Any time two people are talking, and are feeling comfortable, mirroring and matching rapport will be a NATURAL outcome.
Rapport is natural between two people so long as one of them isn’t acting creepy or cult-sleazy.
Or is so thirsty they can’t help but stare at her boobs.
So, the idea of “creating” rapport doesn’t really help.
At least the superficial, “automatic” kind of rapport.
The kind that really only signifies this idea in their head:
“OK, so far you don’t seem like you’re trying to manipulate me, what’s up?”
In order to get your outcome, you need really, really deep rapport.
And instead of thinking of rapport is something on a checklist, think of it as a variable feeling.
One that can get stronger and stronger.
Most of us has at least one person we’ve known for a while.
Somebody we trust.
Somebody we’d bury bodies with.
Or fight with.
This is the kind of rapport that creates outcomes.
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If we’re hemming and hawing between choice A and choice B, all they’d need to say is:
Dude, get B, you can’t go wrong.
And we’d get B.
This is the kind of rapport that results from deep relationships.
This is the kind of rapport that doesn’t require any squirrely language patterns or memorized techniques.
This is the kind of rapport that lets you sell pretty much anything to anybody.
But how do you create this kind of rapport?
I suppose if you had a time machine, you could go back and engineer a life long friendship with your target.
That’s a bit much.
(And you probably don’t have a time machine.)
But there is a way to rapidly create that kind of extremely deep rapport.
And it is based on mirroring and matching.
Only not superficial body language.
To match their deep and complex emotional states.
To match their deep and complex human experiences.
Do this, and they’ll do whatever you want.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.