Covert Attraction Generator
This pattern will work well, but it is only for a couple of scenarios. The first is that talking to a woman about a wedding is necessary. The topic has to seem as natural as possible. The more smoothly you can introduce the topic naturally, the better. Ideally this is best at actual wedding receptions, or if you happen across a group of ladies having a bachelorette party in an otherwise public place.
The second vital component is that you must be capable of approaching and starting conversations with women in general. This technique does require a bit of flexibility, and you’ll need to maintain control of the conversation. This means you’ll need to have a minimum level of confidence when talking to women and maintaining the frame and flow of conversation. You don’t need to have a lot of seduction experience, in fact, this technique works best if you are purposely NOT vibing any kind of seduction or player energy.
(If you need to work on your social confidence, you can do so here.)
I’m Not Going To Tell You
One of the many Milton Model Patterns is the, “I’m not going to tell you,” pattern. If you say something like, “I’m not going to tell you to buy this product, because I want you to decide for yourself whether this product is perfect for you or not and by now, you might be wondering about some other reasons to take this home today.” Whatever comes after the, “I’m not going to tell you” is taken with less resistance, since you just told them you weren’t going to tell them before you told them.
Consider this technique works best as an overarching idea underneath the entire conversation. You don’t ever say, “I’m not going to tell you,” during the conversation. But the whole technique involves talking to her about things involving her and a metaphorical man that is specifically NOT you. If she ever thinks you are covertly trying to get her interested in you, you are coming on too strong.
Dale Carnegies Persuasion Law
Dale Carnegie famously said that you can get anybody to do anything, so long as they think it was their idea. This is one of the underlying principles of this technique. When she does begin to feel attraction for you, however vague or strong, she has to specifically NOT THINK that it is you who is creating that attraction.
It Just Happened
Falling for a guy unexpectedly or even against her better judgement is a common theme in many romantic stories and movies. Nobody likes to believe they’ve been tricked into anything. Truly believing that her attraction for you just happened will also give her plenty of plausible deniability. The most important part of this is you can’t ever take credit for creating the desire in her. You have to build her attraction for you, and give her plenty of situations of plausible deniability that will allow her to further the fantasy of it “just happening.”
Think Of How She’ll Explain It To Her Friends
After it’s happened, she has to fully believe that it indeed, “just happened,” or else she’ll feel ashamed, and then angry at you for manipulating her. Imagine her describing the aftermath to her closest friends. She must believe that she is the one that fell for you, and it was her choice all along. Imagine her friends watching the interaction, they can’t suspect you are gaming her in any way. If you had a PUA switch on your brain, this pattern will only work if that switch is fully in the OFF position.
How To Create Plausible Deniability
It’s unlikely (but possible) that she’ll make a move on you while using this pattern. But depending on the situation, come up with any idea that can further accelerate (or isolate her) that doesn’t sound like your intention is to have sex with her. For example, you might ask her for her phone number, not to call her to date her, but to meet some of her cute and available friends.
The first step is to introduce the idea of weddings. Getting married. Not the relationship, not the guy she wants to marry, but the ideal ceremony. Avoid the temptation to blurt out, “So, tell me about your ideal wedding ceremony,” that would seem a bit strange. Ease into the conversation regarding weddings as slow as you possibly can.
Ask About Her Friends
Ask if her friends are married before you ask if she’s married, if at all. If you start talking to a girl, and ask if she’s married within a few minutes, she’ll know immediately what’s up. The idea is to slowly shape the conversation so she admits she’s not married, and it’s a bad thing. If you do ask as if she’s married, make it seem like you hope she is. That pretty girls who are happily married is a good thing. This is why bringing this up when marriage is already on her mind (bachelorette party or wedding reception) is ideal.
Ask When She Thinks She’ll Be Getting Married
Don’t ask if she’s dating anybody. Don’t ask who she’s getting married to. Ideally, she won’t have a time in the future that she’s planning on getting married. If she’s already engaged, or she’s got a guy in mind that she hopes to get married to, this technique won’t work. Find somebody else.
Ask About The Type of Wedding She Wants To Have
When you ask about her wedding, don’t say the word, “ideal” or anything like that. Start off very slowly, conversationally, as if it’s an after thought. Something very simple like “So, when you do meet the man of your dreams and get married, what kind of wedding do you want?”
The ideal answer is a shoulder shrug, and anything that sounds like, “I don’t know.” When you get to this point, then you’re ready to rock. Proceed very carefully, slowly, conversationally. Don’t ask her if she wants to play a wedding question game. Don’t tell her what you’re intending. Just slowly start asking simple, “either – or” questions that will help her define (or make up on the spot) her ideal wedding.
The idea is to start on the very outside, with very simple questions like, “Well, do you want an inside wedding or an outside wedding?” Ask nonchalantly. Let her think of whatever answer she wants to think of. Don’t ask any leading questions. Each time she answers, you’ll get a little bit closer.
Inside or Outside
This is a good first question, since it has to be one or the other. For the first several questions (so long as she’s having fun and going along with it) ask either-or questions where it HAS TO BE one or the other. Go very slow, if you are doing this right, she should NOT think you are trying to seduce her. She should be enjoying this, as young, unmarried, heterosexual girls generally enjoy talking about their ideal wedding in the abstract.
Lots Of People Or Close Family And Friends
This is also a safe question that can be asked based on either one of the answers to the “inside or outside” question. Ideally, she’ll pause and look off to the side, as if she’s visualizing it as you speak.
Imagine Seeing Her Visualization
One way to help you come up with effective questions is to imagine you can actually see her in her ideal wedding, and you need to ask questions to get the image more specific. Actually look off to the side, into space, and act as if you are trying to visualize her ideal wedding. This should be fun and pleasant for her, and easy for you. Take your time, and let her enjoy the conversation.
There are only so many questions that you can memorize beforehand. Eventually you’ll get to a point where you need to think on the fly. The most important rule is to ask questions in an “either-or” manner, where one or the other questions HAS to be true. A good way to do this is to ask questions in the form of, “X or Not X.” This way even if you get a bunch of “not x’s” in a row, you haven’t broken rapport.
Why This Works
The whole point is to not make her associate you with getting married, or you with the guy she imagines getting married to. This is a much deeper collection of associations than anything linear like that. This works because you are helping her create an ideal fantasy that is common among women. For most unmarried women, the day of their wedding is one of the most important days of their lives.
Again, this is not to connect an association between you and the idea of getting married. This will create a deep and powerful feeling of, “happiness,” or “good feelings” or “desire” or any other adjectives you want to use. The bottom line is she will feel really good talking about this.
In our brains is a “cause-effect” generator. (Read more here). Suffice it to say that we humans tend to make cause-effect connections, or complex equivalents, (X means Y) only when two things are linked together in time. What connections will she make? On the surface is what she is talking about. But below the surface, are those raw human feelings of desire. Those raw, undefined feelings of desire will be connected to you.
If you take your time to let her build up her ideal wedding fantasy, she will associate the deep desire that lives under that fantasy to everything about you. Your voice, your presence, even your smell. This will all be subconscious. This means you are never, ever, allowed to talk about it. She will just feel an unconscious feeling of desire when she thinks of you.
How To Accelerate
You can accelerate the process by anchoring key phrases. During the path of asking the either-or questions, pause every five or six questions and re-describe what you’ve just elicited. Use the same words. Don’t add any other words. Don’t be clever and come up with a creative description. Use only the words you used in the either-or questions.
When you re-describe the description you’ve elicited, be sure to set spatial anchors. A spatial anchor is a specific gesture that you connect to her good feelings. For example, let’s say you’ve got these few things about her ideal wedding:
- Church ceremony
- Plenty of family and friends
- Long ceremony
- Big wedding party (groomsmen, bridesmaids)
- White dress
You would describe it back like this:
So far, you are having a church ceremony (A), it’s happening inside (A), there are plenty of family and friends (A), It’s a long ceremony (A), you have a large number of groomsmen and bridesmaids (A), and you’re wearing a white dress (A), is that accurate?
The (A)’s are the spatial anchors. Use a gesture in the same place when you say those key phrases. When you say those key phrases, watch her slowly, in your peripheral vision if possible. Actually see the vision in front of you and set the anchor as she agrees with the description.
This is the famous self point anchor which is similar to a spatial anchor. Only instead of gesturing off to the side, you gesture toward yourself. This works best if you are using strong eye contact, and are repeating the ideal description back to her while look at her. If she is happy and smiling and nodding, use a slight gesture toward yourself when you fire off the key phrases.
Go as far as you can, as long as you can. Find out about the reception, find out about the honeymoon. This is all just fantasy, and the more you help her create an ideal scenario involving everything the entire process, the more likely she’ll make tons of associations between her unconscious desire and you.
Build In Plausible Deniability For Her
She will need to have an excuse other than just talking to you about the ideal wedding. See it as your job to help her do so. Remember, the ideal situation for her is for it to, “just happen.” This means that any of the connections you create must always remain unconscious.
Compliment Her Visualization Skills
Tell her how well she visualizes. Tell her that most of your friends can’t visualize like she can. Tell her there is a connection between those who can visualize well, and those who have a strong future. Build up evidence that you want her as a friend, and you aren’t trying to seduce her.
Get Excited About Her Imaginary Friends
No, not like in the horror movies, where the imaginary friend is really a demon who ends up killing everybody. Spend some time asking either-or questions about the bridal party. Whittle down the color of the dresses. Ask if her bridesmaids are cute, or really cute. Actually become interested in these “imaginary friends.” Actually tell her to stay in touch so you can be invited to her wedding so you can fall in love with one of her friends.
Look For Any Excuses Within The Story
While you’ve gone a few levels deep into her imagination, find any platonic reasons to go off on a tangent. You can work this out beforehand, to build up. For example, if she is going to have a band at the reception (band or DJ?) you can talk about your friend who needs a singer. Ask her if she knows any singers. Of course, these have to be legitimate connections, so you can actually follow through and give her a chance (through plausible deniability) to let it “just happen.”
During the conversation, drop a few hints about how you never, ever want to get married under any circumstances. But keep on going eliciting her ideal wedding, and enjoy doing so. Just say things that imply you respect the institute of marriage (friends, family etc. are married) but you don’t see yourself getting married. This will further strengthen the idea that this is a platonic conversation, but it will also intrigue her as it adds scarcity to you. At the same time you’ll be building a subconscious connection between her desire, and you, and telling her that you are unavailable for marriage.
When it’s time to close, if you’ve dropped a few, “I’m not getting married” hints and you’ve built a few plausible follow up connections, (e.g. friend needs a singer) then closing should be easy. Just a regular “hey, you’re fun to talk to, we should hang out more” and exchange info is all you need.
When It Happens
Never, ever, imply you caused it to happen. Act like you are just as surprised as she was. But understand, when she puts herself alone with you, she is hoping something is going to happen. You can try a few “test cases” where you suggest stopping by your place, (for example) to pick something up. If she’s acting like a true “buddy” she’ll wait in the car. But if she eagerly follows you in, she’s likely hoping something will happen.
You Seduced Me
If you end up getting together, always let her believe that you wanted to just be friends with her, but she was the one that convinced you otherwise. Then if you finally do get married, act like she’s like one of the pod people from, “Invasion Of The Body Snatchers” who took over your brain. Tell your friends to beware of her because she is the master of the long con.
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