We Want To Believe
Everybody is naturally attracted to somebody with outcome independence.
NOT fake outcome independence which is what nearly everybody has.
We have a kind of two way reframing system that is VERY fast.
When random good things happen, we take credit.
When random bad things happen, we blame others.
This is a lightning fast instinct.
So fast it’s hard to notice.
So when guys TRY and get something, like a girl’s number, it’s a very common response to PRETEND it’s not a big deal.
But this reframe only happens AFTER the event.
After the failure.
The opposite always happens.
You’ll very rarely find somebody who is successful who not only UNDERSTANDS their success but is honest.
Most success, particularly social success is based LARGELY on luck.
But we HATE to believe that our success depends on luck.
From a very ancient instinctive standpoint, truly believing that we had to consistently get lucky to stay alive would feel horrible.
So whenever a guy is successful, the natural assumption is that success was much more according to their actual, in-the-moment skills than it really was.
Few rich people will say:
No idea why I’m successful.
I guess I have a mix of genetic blessings, some luck, and I just happened to hang out with people who helped me become successful.
Even if you DO believe this, you won’t for long.
Because everybody will want YOU to tell them WHY you were successful.
And the more you can claim credit, and pretend to KNOW why you were successful, the more social power, fame, and money you’ll get.
A very compelling instinct.
One that shifts what you really believe.
Hindsight bias is VERY powerful.
Now, what’s this got to do with outcome independence?
Any slobbering goof can try and get a number, not get it, and then PRETEND they didn’t really want it.
Or shrug it off as part of a “number’s game.”
Very few dudes will try for a number, not get it, and say:
I wanted a number, I didn’t get it, hopefully I’ll do better next time.
Now, what is TRUE outcome independence?
Real Pre Framed Game
When you honestly, truly and CONGRUENTLY do not care if you get her number or not, but BEFORE talk to her.
Because you have such ROCK SOLID confidence in your ultimate romantic success.
You are so CONFIDENT in the magnificent life you are building, any one failure, or even a string of failures won’t phase you.
Before you even start talking to her, whoever she is, your attitude is genuine:
I’m building a fantastic life.
I have NO DOUBT that plenty of lovely ladies will want to come along for the ride.
It may be you, it may not be.
Let’s see what you’ve got.
If you can radiate THIS frame, about love, about success, about money, people will SMELL it a mile away.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.