This is gonna get a bit mushy, but get through it and you’ll have a practice that can significantly improve your skills with women.
Most of us are afraid, no terrified, of rejection. This comes from our childhood. When you’re a kid, you don’t know anything. All you know is that sometimes when you cry, your mom comes and takes care of you.
Other times when you cry, she doesn’t.
Now, humans are hard wired to see cause – effect relationships, even when there isn’t any. They’ve done plenty of computerized studies with babies to demonstrate this.
They supposed it helped us to think a lot more quickly back in our caveman days.
So, what’s a baby to conclude when he cries and his mom doesn’t take care of him?
The biggest myth and self deception that is keeping you from getting ALL those things in life:
“I’m Not Good Enough.”
When you approach a girl in a club, there’s this deep, dark, largely unconscious fear that she’ll discover who you “really” are and reject you.
This is why it’s incredibly difficult to “be yourself,” when talking to a girl the first time.
I’m sure you know that if you acted around her like you do around your buddies (relaxed, confident, easily giving and taking shit, speaking your mind without fear) you’d get laid a LOT more.
This unconscious fear, however, is holding you back. It takes a while to “feel comfortable” with somebody so you can let loose and let it all hang out. You need to prove to yourself that they will accept the “real you.”
So here’s where the exercise comes in. It can be kind of terrifying, but it can give you some pretty good results.
Think of your deepest, darkest fear or part of you that you are terrified girls will find out about you.
Can be anything.
Next time you’re out and about, call that fear to mind. (Don’t worry, you’re not going to ever tell anybody what this is).
Feel it. Appreciate it. Embrace it.
Now, look at that cute girl and hold eye contact. Imagine that she can see deep inside you and see that “horrible” secret you’re “terrified” of letting out.
And hold that smile, eye contact, and that “fear” in your mind all at the same time.
Like I said, kind of goofy, mushy or “new agey,” but pretty powerful. Done consistently this will dramatically reduce the general level of anxiety most guys feel when talking to women.
Another thing that can help is to install the unconscious beliefs and behaviors of an Alpha Male, using the powers of hypnosis.
This can easily give you the edge you need.
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