Humans have a lot of instincts.
And we have a ton of learning capabilities.
And once we learn something “by heart” it becomes “second nature.”
Our “first” nature are the things that are part of our factory settings.
Our “second” nature are the things we train to the point of unconscious competence.
This may have happened once we started wandering around the planet.
Every time we moved to a new neighborhood, we had to learn new ways of getting food.
So we copied from people around us.
Until we had a new collection of “food getting” instincts.
NEW instincts that had been programmed in.
One interesting function of our brain is HOW we choose our role models.
We can choose real role models.
People we live with, look up to, and emulate.
OR we can choose fictional role models.
Hero’s from our favorite stories that we’ve heard around the campfire growing up.
People to tend to misunderstand this very important aspect of storytelling and movies.
Movies, and critically movie characters are not the way things are SUPPOSED to be.
They are POTENTIAL ways life COULD be.
Dudes from tens of thousands of years ago would hear stories about their favorite archetypes.
And they would think to themselves:
I hope I can be like THAT one day!
Today it is the same.
Be Like Him
We like and admire and very much want to BE LIKE our favorite characters in the movies.
These same characters and their traits have been around since the dawn of time.
The characters we like the most are the very same characters our ancient ancestors liked the most.
This is the meaning of Joseph Campbell’s book, “The Hero With 1000 Faces.”
Same basic characters over and over since the dawn of time.
For dudes, the ideal male archetype is simple.
Super seductive with the ladies.
Super powers of super villain destruction.
This is the IDEAL.
The behavior to STRIVE towards.
Think of how James Bond talks the ladies.
A very simple linguistic strategy.
He looks the lady in the eye and says:
Then he glances in her eyes, down at her lips, and back up to her eyes.
Then he repeats his name, slowly moving in during the pause.
This pause CAN be magical if you are very, very confident in the delivery.
Particularly if you can hold your frame and your eye contact during this pause.
A great way to PRACTICE this is when giving a speech.
This is why TIMING is a critical component of stand up comedy.
Anything you want to do in person, you can practice on the stage.
Go Big Baby
The more you practice on the stage, the easier it will be in person.
Public speaking confidence is the master key to interpersonal seduction confidence.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.