When most people speak, they spit out jumbles of words around half baked ideas.
This is normal.
Especially in social situations.
We’ve been social animals long before we developed language.
So the path to social success is not “really” the words, or even how they are delivered.
At least not grammatically.
Only they are delivered confidently and the “vibe” effectively.
Most of the time, when we are relaxed, not in any kind of overt competition, we are in a low-level, “flow state.”
We hear other people say things.
Those things remind us of things.
And then we say things.
This happens mostly automatically.
And if you relax and truly be yourself, you can pretty much vibe with anybody.
Most people are friendly.
Most people can sense when you are being genuine or artificial.
And so long as you are only intending to share some decent vibes with a strangers, they’ll be happy to oblige.
This is a function of our social nature.
Small talk vibing with people, just to pass the time, is enjoyable.
Problems only show up when you have a conscious intention.
Like when you are attracted to somebody.
And the main reason you are talking to them is that you are physically attracted.
You know it.
They know it.
This is when confidence and frame strength can be an issue.
If you like them but are worried about getting rejected, or blown off, this will affect your frame.
If you like them but are only talking to them to see what else they’ve got besides their looks, this will also affect your frame.
Generally speaking, the stronger your frame is, and the more flexible you are with the content you can wrap your strong frame around, the more socially attractive you’ll be.
One way to demonstrate this is by how you CHOOSE to use your language.
Instead of spitting out jumbled words around half baked ideas, speak slowly and confidently with well chosen words.
Words and phrases you can say with EXTREME confidence and presence.
Words and phrases that are designed to lead the thinking of others.
Just this trait alone will SKYROCKET the attractiveness of your frame.
This isn’t something you can just “do” after reading about it.
This is something that needs to be practiced.
And the BEST place to practice this kind of communication is by speaking to groups.
Simply by standing up and speaking to a large group of any kind, for any reason, you will FORCE your brain into confident, consciously delivered words and phrases.
Particularly words and phrases that end with a call to action.
A three to five minute speech leading to a strong call to action will give you MASSIVE frame strength.
A three to five minute conversation leading to a “call to action” will create a MASSIVE attraction.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.