Who We Are
What is the human condition?
Impossible to describe from the outside looking in.
Also impossible to describe from inside your human brain.
We can describe the human condition in general.
And when WE describe OTHER PEOPLE we will almost always have some kind of angle.
EVERYBODY has an angle.
This doesn’t mean they are evil or even slightly manipulative.
But evolution programmed us to see the world through OUR biases.
Our biases are designed to help US survive.
Maybe a long, long time ago, there were a group of weird people who saw life through OTHER PEOPLE’s interests.
These people spend all their time and energy helping OTHERS, they didn’t spend enough time taking care of their needs.
So, these people didn’t survive AS WELL as those who were primarily driven by their own selfish interests.
This isn’t very popular in modern times.
But humans are humans.
Not Vulcans, not angels.
So these “angles” that we all have are nearly always subconscious.
Consider this very harsh and very “red pill” truth that EVERYTHING we humans do, we do BECAUSE we think we might benefit in some way.
But because this model operates subconsciously, it’s very easy to think that “we” are NOT like that!
I’m not like all those other “whatever people.”
So the first understanding of the human condition is that we are driven by our own interests.
That’s half the battle.
Because these categories of these selfish interests are pretty simple.
What We Crave
Money, sex, food, status.
And within each one of THESE, there are some very common ideas.
One is everything costs something.
Time, risk, energy, social exposure.
But one cost is OPPORTUNITY cost.
This is likely the biggest killer in the dating market.
Whenever you choose X, you CANNOT have Y.
This is why ordering from a menu with so many delicious choices is so difficult.
Cake And Eating
Once you choose ONE THING on the menu, you CANNOT HAVE anything else.
This is the modern dating paradox in a nutshell.
I could choose person X.
They are “good enough” according to a lot of criteria.
But as soon as I choose person X, I will LOSE out on all the potential better people that might come along.
To make things even worse, the probability of something better coming later is almost ALWAYS over-estimated.
This is another function of our instincts.
Our human condition.
We have a tendency to OVER ESTIMATE how good the future is going to be.
So, here in a nutshell, is the human condition.
Motivated by mostly subconscious selfish interests.
Having to expend effort and risk to satisfy our most basic needs (money, sex, food, status).
Always Hard Choices
Having to deal with the opportunity costs of what we MIGHT get if we wait.
All of this covered in a massive bias-driven swirl of human self deception, another POWERFUL survival skill.
Understand this is true about everybody, particularly YOU, and you will find TRUE peace of mind.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.