Speed Dating For Communication Practice
I went to a speed dating event recently. It’s something that I’ve always wanted to do. Not because I think it’s a good place to meet somebody but it’s an interesting place to be forced into having several conversations with several different people in a very short amount of time.
If you’re inclined to it allows you to push the limits of what you think is socially acceptable. I came up with a list of kind of crazy sounding questions and most of the questions I got were expected.
What you do for living. Do you want a family. Do you drink. Do you do drugs. Do you like cats. The questions I asked were kind of strange. Most of the people didn’t really know how to answer them.
That made them nervous. One woman and I kind of clicked with. We put each other down on the little sheet they give you. We met later for dinner at this restaurant. It was kind of a midpoint between both of our houses.
She told me that she used to be a counselor. She didn’t actually tell me that she used to be a counselor. But she talked about being a counselor and she was always using the past tense when she described her patients her office her colleagues and she didn’t really explain why she used to be a counselor.
She did tell me she wentt to this seminar on past life regression hypnosis. If you’re a therapist you don’t necessarily need to believe in past life regression.
Accept Their Metaphor As Valid
If a patient comes to you and their presenting their problem to you within the past life hypnosis regression paradigm, it’s helpful to be able to work within that metaphor. If you can work within somebody else’s metaphor and talk to them and communicate with them within their own metaphor you’ll have a lot better chance of connecting with that other person.
So I don’t know if she went to the seminar because she actually believed in past life regression or if she just wanted to expand her ability to help patients by expanding her knowledge of the different types of metaphors they might come to her with.
She told me about her experience in this past life regression hypnosis training seminar. It was very very interesting. She said that they would first learn how to hypnotize each other and to go deeper and deeper into their past lives.
Similar Past Lives
She had this one recurring experience that she very much enjoyed. She said that in one of her past lives she was an Egyptian princess. She couldn’t tell for sure if she was an Egyptian Princess but that’s her best guess.
In this scenario that she enjoyed very much, she was sitting in a very very important chair that was raised above everybody else in this very large chamber. Before her were several dozen men all wearing loin cloths.
One by one she would have the men come up and kneel before her. She said they weren’t allowed to look at her. They had to keep their faces to the floor and she would ask them a question and unfortunately she couldn’t remember the content of the question because this whole memory happened in Egyptian.
She wasn’t sure exactly what was going on. She just had some general feelings of what transpired. She would ask them some kind of a question or say something and they would have to respond.
Worst Test Ever
If they responded acceptably, they would be taken to some chamber behind her. She didn’t know what happened in the chamber. She never got to that point into this past life regression.
Only a few of the men passed her questions. The men that didn’t pass her questions she immediately nodded to one of the guards and the guards would chop off his head. They would kick the head off to one side they would toss the body to the other side.
Then the next man wearing a loin cloth wood would come. She said that every time she nodded to the guards and the guards would chop off the man’s head she would have an orgasm.
She very much enjoyed that experience of nodding to a guard to chop off the man’s head who had answered her unsuccessfully thereby giving her an orgasm.
The reason that she said she stopped being a counselor after that was because every time she started talking to one of her patients she couldn’t help but remember that pleasurable experience of having men’s head chopped off and having an orgasm as a result.
That made her start to fantasize about killing her patients. She knew that would be unacceptable if she continued thinking that way while she talked to her patients. Something very very bad would happen. She had to stop being a counselor.
Where Does Your Money Come From?
I didn’t ask her what she did for a living now. All I know is that I excused myself as politely as I could and I went home. For the next two hours I thought of every plausible reason she might give me as to why we should get together again and I came up with every possible excuse I could think of to tell her why that couldn’t happen.
Now despite how crazy this woman was, or is, I still think it’s a very good idea to get out of your comfort zone and meet interesting people. Because of confirmation bias most of us hang out with people that are very similar to ourselves.
Dangers Of Confirmation Bias
We hang out with people that have similar beliefs. We hang out with people that have similar ideas. We hang out with people that have similar interests. Normally this is fine but what it does is it starts to give you a false idea of what is normal.
If you only hang out with your friends you’ll start to believe that the world is very similar to what you think about your friends and yourselves.
In reality, there’s a great many people out there that are extremely interesting. Yes, you might come across an occasional lunatic who likes to chop off people’s heads and get an orgasm.
Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone
Most people that you meet outside of your comfort zone are very very interesting. I think it’s a good idea to put yourself in as many situations as you can or you talk to people that you don’t know.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.