I went out to dinner the other night with a couple of friends. It was a guy and a girl, and the guy was trying to get the girl interested in him.
Naturally, as the third wheel, I just sat back and watched.
What struck me as obvious, (since I was outside of the situation) was how much the guy was trying to impress the girl.
Meaning he would start in on a story, hoping she would hear the story, be impressed, and be attracted to him.
But halfway through the story, something in it would remind her of something, and she’d come up with something interesting she wanted to add to the conversation.
Believe me it was painful to watch.
Why?
Because every time she came up with her own contribution to the conversation, her eyes would light up, her face would get slightly more excited, and she’d perk up a bit.
But my buddy, feeling he was being dissed or something, would listen just a bit, and then quickly go back into his own story.
To which she’d respond by pulling back a bit further. She listened politely, but not with much interest.
I counted four separate occasions where she’d try to “join the conversation,” share a part of herself, only to get shot down.
See, he was trying so hard to impress her, he didn’t notice what was happening.
He wasn’t aware how eager she was to join in an honest “back and forth,” those magical conversations where the topics bounce all over the place, and stories are started and never finished.
When this happens, it’s like beautiful music. Everybody’s playing, and because there’s a bunch of un-finished stories, that means that subconsciously, there’s plenty of “open loops.”
When one person can create several open loops in a conversation, it’s one thing.
But when they happen spontaneously, with two people sharing powerfully attractive energy?
Pure magic.
Unfortunately, my buddy was so up in his head that he didn’t notice this magic was passing him by.
Don’t let this happen to you.
How can you avoid this?
By learning language technology, instead of language patterns.
By knowing how to move in and out of various stories, yours and hers, without worrying about whether or not you “impress her” with your punch line.
See, when you learn the powers of covert hypnosis, you’ll learn it’s not what people think. It’s not you sitting there and hypnotizing her.
It’s you using incredibly versatile and flexible language patterns so that whatever comes up in the conversation, from you or from her, you can weave it into a wonderful, never ending story that you can both participate in.
To learn how, click the link below: