Once upon a time there was this golden Buddha statue.
Way back in the day, in Thailand.
But then the Burmese were getting ready to invade.
Many of the smaller national treasures were hidden.
Except for this golden Buddha.
It was too big.
So they covered it with clay.
Hoping nobody would notice.
And it worked.
But it worked so well, they forgot about it.
Until a few hundred years later.
A monk was cleaning it, and a few pieces of clay fell off, revealing the gold inside.
This story is a very useful metaphor.
That inside you are pure gold.
That when you were a child, you wanted to express the pure gold of who you really are.
But you got so much negative feedback, you decided to hide who you really are.
Under A Bushel
Cover it up.
But, as the metaphor goes, if you genuinely express who you really are, they will all see the gold inside.
As metaphors go, it’s a pretty good one.
It rings true for everybody.
Everybody has some kind of social anxiety.
It’s very easy to see why.
When were kids, we were outgoing, curious and playful.
But were told to pipe down so many times, we made a wrong connection.
The TRUTH of all those past experiences is this:
“Stop making so much noise. That noise is bothering me. Please be quiet.”
But we, in our childhood minds, misunderstood that to mean:
“Stop making so much noise. YOU are bothering me. Something is bad about YOU. Please don’t remind me that YOU exist.”
So we “cover up” who we think are.
And we try to cover that covering with more false covering.
We walk on eggshells around people we “think” are important.
Even though we don’t a thing about them.
How could we?
This isn’t just a metaphor.
This comes across in all our micro-behaviors and movements and gestures in facial expressions.
Here comes some harsh truth.
All of these external behaviors reveal what we TRULY believe about ourselves.
To everybody who sees us and interacts with us.
That we are broken somehow in the inside.
That something deep inside us is wrong.
Few people ever make this connection.
Few people ever even come close to acknowledging this.
So we “externalize” everything out onto the world.
A whole lot of layers of nonsense.
In between who we “think” we really are and all those people out there.
But once you ditch all these false layers, you don’t have to much else.
Just show up.
And as a bonus, you’ll have a LOT more brainpower to speak confidently, playfully, and attractively.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.