A few years ago me and some friends were trying to figure out what to do for the weekend. It was Friday, and were at work. We decided to play softball. We each thought of two other people we could recruit, giving us a total of 18. We decided to meet the next day at the park, and get a softball game going.
We showed up the next day, and each one of us failed miserably. All we had were the six of us, so we decided to play over the line instead. This is a perfect baseball or softball replacement if you don’t have enough people.
We were about halfway through our game and the ball went way out of bounds and I went chasing it. It almost hit this homeless guy sleeping up against the tree. Except when I got close to him, I realized it wasn’t some homeless guy sleeping, it was this guy meditating.
From a distance, it looked like his back was up against the tree, but when I got closer I noticed his back was about an inch away from the tree, yet perfectly parallel to it. His back was perfectly straight. When I got close, he opened his eyes, and saw the ball and smiled.
He picked up the ball and threw it too me, and when he did he reminded me of what an old Tai Chi teacher had told us about Muhammad Ali.
He said that Muhammad Ali was a perfect example to study when studying Tai Chi. He said that if you watched him fight, he was totally relaxed when not getting ready to punch or block somebody. But when he decided to punch or block, his muscles shifted from being perfectly relaxed to perfectly tense.
Efficient Use Of Power
He said that many boxers and martial artists waste a lot of energy by keeping their muscles tense. But one of the reasons Ali was the greatest of all time was because he was incredibly efficient. This is a function of absolute mental control during his matches. When he wasn’t using his muscles they were in pure standby mode. But when needed them, they would spring to life.
I took a public speaking seminar a long time ago. The first half of the class the instructor hammered into us the benefits of public speaking. She did this because most people who study public speaking only study it enough to just get by. To be good enough. To just get up and give a speech without passing out.
But if you make the decision to master this. To become really good at this, something profound will happen. Humans are hierarchical primates. We respect and follow natural leaders. And one way to demonstrate natural leadership is to hold the attention of many people at once.
If you can get up on stage for any reason, and hold people’s attention, something amazing will happen. They’ll be watching you, and they’ll notice that everybody else is watching you. This will give you not only a massive amount of social proof, but an equal amount of authority.
But this is where most people stop. What she said was that from that position of authority is a potential for massive leadership energy. That most of us are rarely in that position where we can command the attention of others.
Most of the time, within the middle of a social group, we are using a ton of brain resources to figure out where we are in the social hierarchy. We need to maintain our hierarchical level and increase it whenever possible. This means we need to be always scanning around us for potential to increase our level of subconsciously projected and perceived social status.
Elimination of Social Competition
But from the stage, all that goes away. But most people will never realize this because they swap all their hierarchical processing with stage anxiety processing. The trick is get so comfortable up on the stage you can gain back your mental and emotional resources that will be freed up from the absence of stage anxiety and social conflict anxiety.
From this position, you will gain massive insights into how to become incredibly influential. To become incredibly persuasive. To become incredibly seductive. And every time you experience this,it leaves a lasting impression on how others perceive you.
The more you do this, the longer it lasts and the more effective you’ll be. Do it enough, and you’ll develop a natural aura of leadership and authority. This is all based on very ancient instincts that predate our use of language.
Overcome Natural Anxiety
The reason she spent so much time explaining all this was so we would not just learn enough about public speaking to do it and get it over with, but so that we could master this. So that we could gain access to our massive intellectual and emotional capability that so many of us waste on anxiety.
She said that if you can experience this once, you’ll know exactly what this means. For those who do have this experience, there is life before this experience, and life after this experience.
When he threw the ball back to me, he went from some guy that looked like he was leaning up against the tree to a professional pitcher. The ball was fast and straight and even stung a little when I caught it. I was not expecting it. He only smiled, closed his eyes and went back to meditation.
Simpler Is Better
I guess it turns out that playing over the line can be better than a full game of softball. With eighteen people, and the inevitable family members that come to watch, there’s always a couple extra hours of prep time, and the after party usually lasts a while.
With over the line, it’s just six guys who show up, play for a while, go knock back a few at the local bar and then call it a day.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.