A long time ago I went to Toastmasters.
A pretty fun experience.
One speech I gave was all about fear.
How it clouds your thinking, makes you much more inefficient, etc.
The club met in a big bookstore with a coffee shop.
So in front of the speaker were the 15 or so members.
And behind those members were all the people sitting with their coffee.
Anyhow, I wanted to start my speech with a bang.
So I went up to the podium, paused, looked over the audience, and screamed at the top of my lungs.
The reaction from everybody was priceless.
Now that I had them hooked, I went into my speech.
This is essentially how to write good copy.
Come up with a huge attention grabber.
This is also a great way to start a conversation.
Well, you don’t want to walk up to a stranger and scream your lungs out.
But it’s a good idea to start off strong.
Possible Not Easy
Sure, you can overwrite first impressions.
And this actually can be a decent idea.
But this only works if you have a really strong personality, strong confidence, and you purposely hold back during the beginnings of a conversation.
This will leverage the law of comparison and contrast.
Their initial opinion of you will be so-so.
But the more you talk, the more you let the “real you” shine, the BETTER they’ll feel about you.
This is kind of difficult to pull off.
It’s better to start strong from the very beginning.
A good thing to add into this is the idea of “qualifying.”
Most people approach other people because they want something.
They almost present themselves and HOPE they get accepted.
This radiates very little authority.
This only works if you are drop dead gorgeous, famous, or obviously rich.
Lead With Power
But if you START with authority, suddenly they will be the ones qualifying themselves to you.
How do you do this?
Take a few moments before you talk to them.
Get clear in your mind on some pass/fail criteria for THEM.
Get clear in your mind to NOT pass any judgment on them unless you get a few data points first.
Find some past memories of happy experiences talking to people.
Create some positive expectations of future happy experiences of talking to people.
This may take a bit of practice, but this can become your automatic frame.
One of authority, that is ALWAYS qualifying the world.
This is the opposite of the “please accept me” frame most people have today.
Making you stand out like a King or Queen.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.